Been struggling with this  a lot lately and I don't think its that I got tired of my character so much as, there is a group of people who OOCly go out of their way to cause problems with people. I'm not sure if this is by design or if they're just bad at RP and can't tell the difference between IC or OOC or if they just choose to ignore it. Anyway these people have effectively ruined 3 HUGE and super significant plots involving my character, the first two they did on the same day and I figured, fuck it I'll Blacklist them all, burn the bridges and move on.Â
Turns out that's hard because the time you invested is a lot and when you have to explain to your partners what happened it takes the steam out in a big kinda way. So I'm finally starting to get back into things and then recently this same set of people shows up and OOCly crashes another RP thing. To make matters worse I'd been lied to about the pretense of the situation OOCly before arriving so it causes this big scene in Ul'Dah. A good portion of the people who found the RP joined in only to see nothing happen and me storm off, I got blamed for the entire situation even though I'd been lied to about what was going to happen (if they'd said Hey so my plan is to not do this thing, then call in some help, this is who I want to call, I could have explained why that shouldn't happen because of those issues, but this person decided to ignore those issues and not say anything OOCly and give me a completely different plan to go with), then flamed and humiliated in front of people I either didn't know already or had just met. So the result is after months of working hard on my character, I got my reputation dragged through the mud by these two FC's and this other person.Â
Its humiliating, its frustrating and it makes you want to not log in or change characters, but after so much work you don't want to just walk away either. The shitty part though is you can't really talk about what happened because when you get ganged up on OOCly its your word vs theirs, and sometimes you don't know someone till you've RP'd with them for a month almost exclusively to see the shit they do.Â
My FC Told me later they had some members in previous months have the same thing happen with the same group of people, but again if you can't talk to anyone about it or feel like you can't, you don't. That said it does make you want to stop playing.
EDIT:
To the guy above me, sometimes its hard to not RP even if you don't want to, because if I'm dating a character or something if I take a week or two off, relationship can change over night. You start to feel pinned into it. I'm not saying you are and the right people won't understand, but I know that anxiety well.
Turns out that's hard because the time you invested is a lot and when you have to explain to your partners what happened it takes the steam out in a big kinda way. So I'm finally starting to get back into things and then recently this same set of people shows up and OOCly crashes another RP thing. To make matters worse I'd been lied to about the pretense of the situation OOCly before arriving so it causes this big scene in Ul'Dah. A good portion of the people who found the RP joined in only to see nothing happen and me storm off, I got blamed for the entire situation even though I'd been lied to about what was going to happen (if they'd said Hey so my plan is to not do this thing, then call in some help, this is who I want to call, I could have explained why that shouldn't happen because of those issues, but this person decided to ignore those issues and not say anything OOCly and give me a completely different plan to go with), then flamed and humiliated in front of people I either didn't know already or had just met. So the result is after months of working hard on my character, I got my reputation dragged through the mud by these two FC's and this other person.Â
Its humiliating, its frustrating and it makes you want to not log in or change characters, but after so much work you don't want to just walk away either. The shitty part though is you can't really talk about what happened because when you get ganged up on OOCly its your word vs theirs, and sometimes you don't know someone till you've RP'd with them for a month almost exclusively to see the shit they do.Â
My FC Told me later they had some members in previous months have the same thing happen with the same group of people, but again if you can't talk to anyone about it or feel like you can't, you don't. That said it does make you want to stop playing.
EDIT:
To the guy above me, sometimes its hard to not RP even if you don't want to, because if I'm dating a character or something if I take a week or two off, relationship can change over night. You start to feel pinned into it. I'm not saying you are and the right people won't understand, but I know that anxiety well.
