Monadi Wrote:Long story is long.
This sounds like something simuliar that happened to me, but I was on the other side. The only difference is my character didn't actually have any romantic feelings for hers (Female playing a male) and it didn't matter how many times I told her other wise she was convinced she did.
Armi was supposed to (She didn't really turn out this way, but that's whole nother can of worms) be a social outcast, not known for people wanting to get close to her, and basically causing a lot of trouble. When she got forced into a military unit, she was fully expecting to stay in the background and keep quiet, no one wanting to talk to her. She and one of the members started getting close, by accident really, and they seemed to find some common ground. She didn't want him to find out about her shady past, terrified if he did he would stop talking to her. He was her only friend, she regarded him, I suppose, the same way a girl with a crush would, always nervous around him and unsure of what to say, but that's only because she had never had a friend before. She noticed him starting to be more social with people around him and wondered why, sometimes jealous over the fact he was doing better than she was (They were both supposed to be bad at this after all)
It kind of all went to hell then, the other person got the wrong idea after a post I had made about how nervous she was and afraid of losing him and she was uncomfortable. She never told me about it though, so I had no idea this was even an issue. She mentioned that her character new my character like hers on the forums, and I told her my character did not have feelings for him in that way, she was just terrified of losing him, and he wouldn't know for a fact, he would just be assuming. Later on it turned into guild drama, when I asked the GL if said person was uncomfortable and he reluctantly told me she was. I said I would stop all "romantic" inclination toward her character and it would be done. There wasn't any, but it didn't seem worth it to argue that.
Her character then made a decision that costed a lot for my own, causing people to take sides. Some characters were on Armi's side, some were on hers. Those who were on my side of course treated her character with distaste, but she got mad, thought it was bringing OOC drama IC, when it wasn't. I guess it was because it was "my" group (I had brought 5 people with me to this guild) vs "her" group and I could even see how it would look that way, but one in my group didn't agree with Armi, but that person was never RPed with by the other side, so they couldn't have known. And those on Armi's side were distrustful of the character for how he reacted after the drama was over, not before or during.
The TL;DR is the whole thing was a misunderstanding and I really wish it would have been worked out at one. Both ME and the girl did things we probably shouldn't have, or didn't even realize we were doing.
But that's always a risk one has to take in ANY RP situation, not just Romance RP.
Always make sure those lines of communication are open
Funnily enough ,as mentioned in my previous post, she did end up romantically involved with two men, both of whom it did not last very long. That girl was not meant for romance XD
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