Ironic that this thread pops up on today's date...
I can write a very interesting novel, outlining the events of my life between August of 2005 and September of 2007. It's strange how two years of anger and resentment took probably about the same length of time to overcome after the endpoint. I would be upset about losing four years of my life, if not for the fact that I learned some extraordinarily valuable lessons.
Most of Sylph from FFXI knows all about this awful story, so I'll try to keep it brief, relevent, avoid naming any specific individuals, and I'll try to keep it relatively QQ-free. I might wind up going into more detail if there's an RPCV episode dedicated to the topic, which I know has been discussed.
I may at one time have been regarded as the jealous boyfriend type. I had issues in a prior relationship which left me insecure. But I did get involved OOCly with a character's love interest. After an extended friendship a couple of meetings, and countless hours of long-distance cell phone bill-rackage, I decided to move 1600 miles away from everything I knew on a leap of faith. The fact is the girl I had fallen for had greatly misrepresented herself, and if I wasn't so lovestruck I probably would have seen the warning signs even before I moved out there.
We had decided to maintain the RP romance, which had turned to a RP marriage by that point. It wasn't long before the problems manifested themselves. I trusted her, but I wasn't thrilled about some of the stuff she was RPing, and expressed this to her. Long story short, she turned out to be immature and a compulsive liar. I got burned by her, a couple people whom I considered online friends, and a flatmate who was at that time my best friend. There's more to it than that, but that's really the gist of it.
I've found a new relationship now, much closer to home. I'm not hopeful that she'll be a RPer with us (but it still remains to be seen, she did roll up a miqo'te the other night!). I've resolved that in all probability, I'm not going to do any relationship RP with Eva. Honestly, that was a large part of the allure of making a female character. Her storyline leaves off in such a way that she's more or less a widow, and while the possibility may be out there to do something lighthearted with it later on, it's going to depend on what I'm comfortable with, and how my RL girlfriend would feel about it. I do hope to have many IC friendships though.
I can't speak as to how people in RL relationships should RP their relationships. That should be up to them. But I will say that both parties involved should be in agreement and comfortable with the process, otherwise [melo]drama will almost certainly ensue.
I can write a very interesting novel, outlining the events of my life between August of 2005 and September of 2007. It's strange how two years of anger and resentment took probably about the same length of time to overcome after the endpoint. I would be upset about losing four years of my life, if not for the fact that I learned some extraordinarily valuable lessons.
Most of Sylph from FFXI knows all about this awful story, so I'll try to keep it brief, relevent, avoid naming any specific individuals, and I'll try to keep it relatively QQ-free. I might wind up going into more detail if there's an RPCV episode dedicated to the topic, which I know has been discussed.
I may at one time have been regarded as the jealous boyfriend type. I had issues in a prior relationship which left me insecure. But I did get involved OOCly with a character's love interest. After an extended friendship a couple of meetings, and countless hours of long-distance cell phone bill-rackage, I decided to move 1600 miles away from everything I knew on a leap of faith. The fact is the girl I had fallen for had greatly misrepresented herself, and if I wasn't so lovestruck I probably would have seen the warning signs even before I moved out there.
We had decided to maintain the RP romance, which had turned to a RP marriage by that point. It wasn't long before the problems manifested themselves. I trusted her, but I wasn't thrilled about some of the stuff she was RPing, and expressed this to her. Long story short, she turned out to be immature and a compulsive liar. I got burned by her, a couple people whom I considered online friends, and a flatmate who was at that time my best friend. There's more to it than that, but that's really the gist of it.
I've found a new relationship now, much closer to home. I'm not hopeful that she'll be a RPer with us (but it still remains to be seen, she did roll up a miqo'te the other night!). I've resolved that in all probability, I'm not going to do any relationship RP with Eva. Honestly, that was a large part of the allure of making a female character. Her storyline leaves off in such a way that she's more or less a widow, and while the possibility may be out there to do something lighthearted with it later on, it's going to depend on what I'm comfortable with, and how my RL girlfriend would feel about it. I do hope to have many IC friendships though.
I can't speak as to how people in RL relationships should RP their relationships. That should be up to them. But I will say that both parties involved should be in agreement and comfortable with the process, otherwise [melo]drama will almost certainly ensue.
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