I've been wanting to post in this thread all week but I've been busy with friends/family/FFXI every single day O.o
Nearly four years ago my current boyfriend and I met in FFXI. For the first week or so after we met IC we never said a word to each other OOC. We even RP'ed for 48 hours straight without sleeping, just going around RP-ing with our friends and helping them out with quests. Eventually things did wear on us because our characters were so close and we had so many different things going on in our real lives. I actually got upset with Zane over how much influence we had over each other in game and we broke it off IC for about six months. Oddly enough it turned out things were harder for us to be together IC and not OOC. Go figure.
Obviously things worked out because we live together and have a cute little girl who I have to show off because she's perfect:
![[Image: loaseraphinehalloween.jpg]](http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a205/pirateemmalea/loaseraphinehalloween.jpg)
However, I think when we decided to get together IC and OOC we ended up hurting a lot of people. I really wish I could go back and fix some of the mistakes I made back then. I guess people really don't get second chances though ^^;;
I do agree with Castiel that there are a lot of pitfalls to playing with your real life partner. For example, I'm a pretty moderate RP'er while Zane is a very heavy end gamer. Today I really wanted to RP with TALE members, but I had to go do Abyssea with him and my linkshell. Yes, I had a lot of fun... but I am slightly disappointed I didn't get to do what I wanted to do. There are lots of drawbacks, but on the other hand, Zane is also my best friend in the entire world. Creating stories, RP'ing with each other, and playing together is one of the most awesome things in our relationship.
After all my experiences with RP relationships I think the most important things are knowing what you want out of the relationship, knowing what your partner expects, and being respectful of each other.
/rantmode "Off"
Nearly four years ago my current boyfriend and I met in FFXI. For the first week or so after we met IC we never said a word to each other OOC. We even RP'ed for 48 hours straight without sleeping, just going around RP-ing with our friends and helping them out with quests. Eventually things did wear on us because our characters were so close and we had so many different things going on in our real lives. I actually got upset with Zane over how much influence we had over each other in game and we broke it off IC for about six months. Oddly enough it turned out things were harder for us to be together IC and not OOC. Go figure.
Obviously things worked out because we live together and have a cute little girl who I have to show off because she's perfect:
However, I think when we decided to get together IC and OOC we ended up hurting a lot of people. I really wish I could go back and fix some of the mistakes I made back then. I guess people really don't get second chances though ^^;;
I do agree with Castiel that there are a lot of pitfalls to playing with your real life partner. For example, I'm a pretty moderate RP'er while Zane is a very heavy end gamer. Today I really wanted to RP with TALE members, but I had to go do Abyssea with him and my linkshell. Yes, I had a lot of fun... but I am slightly disappointed I didn't get to do what I wanted to do. There are lots of drawbacks, but on the other hand, Zane is also my best friend in the entire world. Creating stories, RP'ing with each other, and playing together is one of the most awesome things in our relationship.
After all my experiences with RP relationships I think the most important things are knowing what you want out of the relationship, knowing what your partner expects, and being respectful of each other.
/rantmode "Off"
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