Nobody owes anyone else RP. Backing off from playing with someone because you don't want to isn't being a jerk. It's not even necessarily having high standards. It's just not wanting to play with someone. Similarly offering constructive criticism isn't being a jerk as long as you're not a jerk about it.
Making an example out of them, demanding that they shouldn't play the way they do (there's a difference between this and constructive criticism) or telling others that they shouldn't play with them etc? That's being a jerk.
'Elitism' in RP, to me, is deciding that your time and enjoyment are worth more than other people's and that you have the right to dictate how people behave in their own environment. It's, when they way you play doesn't mesh with the way someone else does - perhaps you write paragraphs and they like one-liners, or maybe they're bad at spelling and the mistakes bother you, personally I don't think I'll be RPing with anyone who uses the FFXIII equipment during scenes because that drags me right out of the game (they're not inherently bad because of it, it's just personal preference) - not being able to step back and just not play with them. And it's also, when someone does step back and not want to play with you, demanding that you are owed their time and using scare words like 'elitism' to demand it.
Not everyone's going to mesh well. There's going to be disagreements and sometimes the answer to those disagreements is for both parties to be happy playing separately from each other. 'Elitism' is not accepting that and demanding that there is one perfect way to play and that that perfect way is your way, whether you're championing writing ten paragraphs a time or the idea that absolutely everyone should be willing to play with absolutely everyone else.
In my FFXIII equips example, I'd avoid starting a scene with people who were using those items. If they were interested in playing with me (or if they had a really amazing character I desperately wanted to play with - this happens!), I'd explain that those items make it difficult for me to get into a scene and ask if they wouldn't mind using something else when playing with me. If they're cool with that - hooray, we've compromised! If they're not, we go our seperate ways and nobody's worse off. That's not elitism, that's adults deciding how to spend their limited free time.
Making an example out of them, demanding that they shouldn't play the way they do (there's a difference between this and constructive criticism) or telling others that they shouldn't play with them etc? That's being a jerk.
'Elitism' in RP, to me, is deciding that your time and enjoyment are worth more than other people's and that you have the right to dictate how people behave in their own environment. It's, when they way you play doesn't mesh with the way someone else does - perhaps you write paragraphs and they like one-liners, or maybe they're bad at spelling and the mistakes bother you, personally I don't think I'll be RPing with anyone who uses the FFXIII equipment during scenes because that drags me right out of the game (they're not inherently bad because of it, it's just personal preference) - not being able to step back and just not play with them. And it's also, when someone does step back and not want to play with you, demanding that you are owed their time and using scare words like 'elitism' to demand it.
Not everyone's going to mesh well. There's going to be disagreements and sometimes the answer to those disagreements is for both parties to be happy playing separately from each other. 'Elitism' is not accepting that and demanding that there is one perfect way to play and that that perfect way is your way, whether you're championing writing ten paragraphs a time or the idea that absolutely everyone should be willing to play with absolutely everyone else.
In my FFXIII equips example, I'd avoid starting a scene with people who were using those items. If they were interested in playing with me (or if they had a really amazing character I desperately wanted to play with - this happens!), I'd explain that those items make it difficult for me to get into a scene and ask if they wouldn't mind using something else when playing with me. If they're cool with that - hooray, we've compromised! If they're not, we go our seperate ways and nobody's worse off. That's not elitism, that's adults deciding how to spend their limited free time.
