For Asyria, et al...
That's true...but I guess what I'm trying to get across is that I see that happen more often than not in RP relationships. Again, because a lot of people can't separate themselves from the character they play. It's a fault that a great many people suffer from, though not everyone. This isn't to suggest that everyone falls prey to RP relationship emotional involvement. Not at all, in fact. But many people who do choose to engage in them aren't aware of all the potential side-effects and consequences of engaging in a relationship online, especially in an RP environment.
Me personally? I just avoid the whole thing altogether because I don't want to get caught up in something that either 1. turns Fatal Attraction, or 2. puts me into a situation where I allow things to go too far. I have to keep control of myself, while the other person is responsible for themselves. That's the way I see it. It's a choice that many people don't weigh before they take the proverbial "plunge" as it were. It happens, despite what many people want to admit.
Sure, people can do the same thing in bars, gyms, school, wherever. But in a situation where the person on the screen is all that represents the person sitting in front of the monitor, it's much easier to first separate yourself from the feelings, only to fall more and more into a feeling of togetherness, both with your character and the one that you're "in love" with. It's gradual in most cases, and people don't realize what's going on until it's much too late to avoid the repercussions.
They're not the only two that I saw this happen with. I saw people God-Mode relationships, forcing other players to play a certain way because they had control and jealousy issues. It worked because the female in this particular scenario was emotionally compromised (suffering in a flailing relationship already) and probably wasn't in the right frame of mind to engage in a relationship in an MMO. Now, I know this girl and she's a very strong person now after all this has blown over, but emotional compromise (in many out-of-control cases) is what leads people to do things they might not do otherwise.
Call it my perspective, but I've seen it go horribly wrong far more than I've seen it do anything worth RP'ing or engaging in as an outside party. I don't want you to get the impression that I think all RP relationships are ticking time bombs. I've seen a few that were remarkable, where it actually felt like two people in love, maybe with a "child" character RP'd by a third person, and it seemed like a real, loving, and deep relationship between two people. It caused a lot of RP moments, either between them as a "family" or with outside players. It can happen and does happen in some cases, but by and large, in my experience, it's a really bad idea.
That being said, I'm not opposed to RP relationships, but again, I don't engage in them myself.
--ShatteredSoldier
That's true...but I guess what I'm trying to get across is that I see that happen more often than not in RP relationships. Again, because a lot of people can't separate themselves from the character they play. It's a fault that a great many people suffer from, though not everyone. This isn't to suggest that everyone falls prey to RP relationship emotional involvement. Not at all, in fact. But many people who do choose to engage in them aren't aware of all the potential side-effects and consequences of engaging in a relationship online, especially in an RP environment.
Me personally? I just avoid the whole thing altogether because I don't want to get caught up in something that either 1. turns Fatal Attraction, or 2. puts me into a situation where I allow things to go too far. I have to keep control of myself, while the other person is responsible for themselves. That's the way I see it. It's a choice that many people don't weigh before they take the proverbial "plunge" as it were. It happens, despite what many people want to admit.
Sure, people can do the same thing in bars, gyms, school, wherever. But in a situation where the person on the screen is all that represents the person sitting in front of the monitor, it's much easier to first separate yourself from the feelings, only to fall more and more into a feeling of togetherness, both with your character and the one that you're "in love" with. It's gradual in most cases, and people don't realize what's going on until it's much too late to avoid the repercussions.
They're not the only two that I saw this happen with. I saw people God-Mode relationships, forcing other players to play a certain way because they had control and jealousy issues. It worked because the female in this particular scenario was emotionally compromised (suffering in a flailing relationship already) and probably wasn't in the right frame of mind to engage in a relationship in an MMO. Now, I know this girl and she's a very strong person now after all this has blown over, but emotional compromise (in many out-of-control cases) is what leads people to do things they might not do otherwise.
Call it my perspective, but I've seen it go horribly wrong far more than I've seen it do anything worth RP'ing or engaging in as an outside party. I don't want you to get the impression that I think all RP relationships are ticking time bombs. I've seen a few that were remarkable, where it actually felt like two people in love, maybe with a "child" character RP'd by a third person, and it seemed like a real, loving, and deep relationship between two people. It caused a lot of RP moments, either between them as a "family" or with outside players. It can happen and does happen in some cases, but by and large, in my experience, it's a really bad idea.
That being said, I'm not opposed to RP relationships, but again, I don't engage in them myself.
--ShatteredSoldier
