Tumensuns

Take a deep breath, and relax. If you're worried about your tanking because lives depend on you, also remember that lives depend on you being a competent DPS as well. If you don't make that DPS check(Ifrit nail/Titan heart, to name a couple), everyone dies. If you misstep and die to an AoE, could lead to a wipe because there's not enough DPS. Now, look at your self in the tanking aspect. All you need to worry about is keeping threat(which DRK's do well last I knew), and timing cooldowns with big hits, positioning the boss, and yourself. Both tanks and DPS require some skill, and both can lead to a parties wipe. So take a deep breath, and play the class that you've grown to like. People are going to be mean, but people are just as mean to DPS, and healers alike. Don't let idle words ruin you. I used to tank as a warrior pre-buff, I know what it is like, and I know what it means to be discouraged. If all else fails, you don't need to play the game as the same class as your characters RP chosen profession. You can build a nice set for your DRK and RP in that clothing, and that style.

From what I understand is, Othard and Doma are to the east of Eorzea, and was the first neighbor of the Garleans homeland of Ilsebard(sp?). From there they pushed to Ala Mhigo and then into Eorzea. Xaela themselves inhabited most of the western side of Othard, where Doma was on the far east. Doman refugees, and Raen like Yugiri required ships to get to Eorzea. Going through the steppes and deserts would have been a death sentence, and increased risk of running into Garlean forces. It's quite possible that when the Empire was conquering Othard, many Xaela tribes scattered westward towards Ala Mhigo/Eorzea, and eastward towards Doma(there are Raen friendly tribes of Xaela). There's a lot of ground to cover, and tribes of people who are well-known to be nomadic may have an easier time staying ahead of the Garlean army, with less resources, and being as they are were probably very slow to make themselves known to the natives of Eorzea. There's an NPC Xaela in Ishgard, I believe, who talks about his first time coming to Ishgardian lands and how they had already branded him an enemy because of his features, and the whole nine-yards.

I disagree. The only consequences that should result in someone playing an abrasive character is IC consequences. It should never be considered a responsibility of the player to deal with people taking their characters actions personally OOC. The responsibility falls on the player who is the one taking it personal. If their RP bothers you, say as such, and get it figured out or it'll snowball into the dramallama the OP is experiencing. As far as people not expecting their abrasive character to be ostracized ICly, well.. that's just being silly. I think there needs to be balances with this thought process: If I'm playing a villain character, or even just an unfriendly one, and my character starts to make someone legitly unsettled on an OOC standpoint (either they've had something done to them on a similar level and weren't aware of what they were getting into, this is just something they're squeemish about, etc) and they ask me (politely, mind you) to either, "Stop," or, "Tone it down," I think that I could handle either: toning it down, giving my character something else to do (stopping), or just finding a reason to not roleplay with this person. Sure, it's my character, and I should be entitled to play them however I want, but that doesn't mean I have the right to go about making people uncomfortable on an OOC level just because, 'Loldealwithit.' Likewise, I've seen people abuse, "My character is a bad guy," to just be a jerk. To transfer OOC emotions to IC and then claim, "Too bad." I've seen roleplay ruined because one player couldn't offer another the decency (or straight up respect) to either tone it down or find someone else to torment. At the end of the day, we've all experienced different things, and our fun should not ever come at the cost of someone else's. This is a big enough community we can find like minded individuals. Still, people shouldn't just straight up stop playing these characters (or be forced to change them). And people shouldn't condemn them OOC for IC actions. If I'm playing a "Bad guy" character and someone starts accusing me that, "Oh you're a racist IRL," or, "You hate me don't you," or whatever it may be that's on them. That isn't on me. I'm still entitled to play my character and keep myself separated from my character's thoughts and actions. Bad people exist in storytelling. Antagonists are there for a reason. You don't have to participate with them but you also don't need to damn a person for playing them. It doesn't "fall on them," at all if that person hasn't been contacted and there hasn't been an option or hand extended to adjust or leave the story. At the end of the day, we're all here to have fun, and tell stories. Not everyone is going to jive IC or OOC but that doesn't mean it has to be a shame fest. IC=/=OOC Roleplayers need to learn to communicate better instead of just going to extreme sides. *Edit & Note: I realize not all abrasive characters are bad or evil. I get that. I was using a consistent example. I believe you're misunderstanding what it is I was saying. I am not saying "loldealwithit", not in the slightest. To reiterate, it's up to the player who is taking an issue with it to speak up if the RP is bothering them OOCly and talk about it with the other player, not the player who is choosing to play an abrasive/challenging character. They do not know how you feel and cannot assume how you would feel, so how are they responsible for knowing how it is the IC actions are making you feel OOCly? If you do speak up about it, and the other player says "loldealwithit", then you have the right to remove yourself from the RP. You made your feelings known, and they were just as abrasive OOC, and their OOC actions should have consequence OOCly. They are not willing to cooperate, and neither should you if that is their answer. But if you choose not to speak up about your problems with it, you cannot hold the actions of the player ICly against them OOCly.

I disagree. The only consequences that should result in someone playing an abrasive character is IC consequences. It should never be considered a responsibility of the player to deal with people taking their characters actions personally OOC. The responsibility falls on the player who is the one taking it personal. If their RP bothers you, say as such, and get it figured out or it'll snowball into the dramallama the OP is experiencing. As far as people not expecting their abrasive character to be ostracized ICly, well.. that's just being silly.

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