Evie Posted March 12, 2014 Share #26 Posted March 12, 2014 >.< Yah, idk they bailed on you immediately after leaving a dungeon....to me that seems like they knew there wasn't space in the Extreme group, but didn't want to tell you, felt guilty and so ran a dungeon with you so that it wouldn't be so bad. I've been trying hard to not talk poorly about your friends, because well their your friends, but that's really harsh. It most likely wasn't their fault, someone else making the group make up...but the actions make it looks like they knew. Also....if you have highly geared people who don't really NEED the gear from Extremes cause they got tons of Allagen or myth...they should have filtered in a few lower geared people in order to HELP raise their gear levels, since it's so important that such things happen to run coil. Link to comment
Kage Posted March 12, 2014 Author Share #27 Posted March 12, 2014 >.< Yah, idk they bailed on you immediately after leaving a dungeon....to me that seems like they knew there wasn't space in the Extreme group, but didn't want to tell you, felt guilty and so ran a dungeon with you so that it wouldn't be so bad. I've been trying hard to not talk poorly about your friends, because well their your friends, but that's really harsh. It most likely wasn't their fault, someone else making the group make up...but the actions make it looks like they knew. Also....if you have highly geared people who don't really NEED the gear from Extremes cause they got tons of Allagen or myth...they should have filtered in a few lower geared people in order to HELP raise their gear levels, since it's so important that such things happen to run coil. To be honest, I feel like you're getting my biased and colored representation of it so it's not fair to them. I think my bitterness may be coloring everything a bad way cause my friends aren't mean at all. I can't say for sure if I had left the party or if they had disbanded. But at one point I remember seeing no party as I returned from exiting darkhold and then getting on vent and asking FC chat "so garuda ex?" and getting the response about waiting on the tank. Then I saw on the FC tab that everyone was partied. Link to comment
Evie Posted March 12, 2014 Share #28 Posted March 12, 2014 To be honest, I feel like you're getting my biased and colored representation of it so it's not fair to them. I think my bitterness may be coloring everything a bad way cause my friends aren't mean at all. I can't say for sure if I had left the party or if they had disbanded. But at one point I remember seeing no party as I returned from exiting darkhold and then getting on vent and asking FC chat "so garuda ex?" and getting the response about waiting on the tank. Then I saw on the FC tab that everyone was partied. I know there is some bias because of how everything makes you feel and I swear I've been honestly not trying to just automatically point fingers and go "THEY ALL SUCK!". But the way you told it just seemed incredibly sneaky. I've had friends from one group rag on friends from another group and I hate when they do that and they don't even know them. So I've honestly been trying to not just straight out point fingers. They are your friends...IRL friends more importantly, which makes me more inclined to say there's someone else building the groups, not your friends. And that the situation is more in this other nameless person's hands, a FC lead or officer. I don't know. It's just *spreads arms* a really terrible situation... Link to comment
Ildur Posted March 12, 2014 Share #29 Posted March 12, 2014 I am the kind of person that thinks that if a group is actively or passively ruining your enjoyment of the game you should leave and find something else. Specially when it seems like the group is only shunning you because they don't want to invest time in your gear/training for endgame. You can form a linkshell with your friends or join one they are already in to keep in touch with them in-game. Link to comment
synaesthetic Posted March 13, 2014 Share #30 Posted March 13, 2014 Ildoo has the right of it. You've got 8 linkshell slots for a reason; use 'em. The Free Company confers benefits for raiding beyond what an LS can possibly match. I'm serious in that I'd absolutely approve your application in a second. We're so chronically short of black mages it's not even funny--we have only three BLM mains in the whole FC, one of which was asked to switch from MNK. No other job has the AE power that we do and I'm sure it'll become necessary in future content! Link to comment
ArmachiA Posted March 13, 2014 Share #31 Posted March 13, 2014 Sounds like your looking for an FC that doesn't have a static, just a schedule to go, one that RPs and has plots since your kind of shy. If they aren't fulfilling your need to progress and to RP, find an FC that does. THough, I know how it is wanting to stick with your friends - we let a lot of our friends into our FC even though they don'r RP because they want to hang out with people they know. It can be a hard decision. Make sure you talk to your friends about it openly and honestly BEFORE you leave or it will look really bad on your part. If/When you decide to leave, expect me to try to pull you into the Blades, but I won't do it now as I think the best option is to try to talk it out and see where you want to be without any kind of rash decision. Link to comment
Kage Posted March 13, 2014 Author Share #32 Posted March 13, 2014 Thanks a lot everyone for the advice! I'd spoken to a few of the FC mates who had been constantly pugging and their hopes just didn't align with mine... I've spoken with a close friend before and recently about how I'd felt about things and I know he didn't want me to leave but it honestly felt like I was staring at their backs trying to play catch up to content that I wanted to do with friends. I told them what I was thinking and a couple of them seemed ok with it so long as I played with them still. Which of course I would. So I did leave today. And gosh now you all make it extremely hard and I feel bad. :< To be openly honest, I very much have been looking at both Nightblades and Unity, ever since I joined RPC. @_@ Especially since I know a couple of people in NB and/or recently joined. It was also really fun doing T1-2 (and the er Titans ) with some people from NB on Monday! I also had a great time speaking and partying with you synaesthetic. As you can tell I still have ropes to learn but I do get better at practicing. Everyone I've spoken with from Unity both here and in-game have been kind and helpful. I've never felt like I was -wanted- before so I'm also now feeling very overwhelmed. I'm sorry if this doesn't help. Decisions are hard. D: Link to comment
Evie Posted March 13, 2014 Share #33 Posted March 13, 2014 I can make it harder and put up Equilibrium for your decision too. And I'm sure there many many others can offer places in their FCs as well. Go with your gut and where you want to be. I'm sure there will be no hard feelings from anyone, maybe a little jealousy at someone else getting such an amazing BLM Lala to their ranks. Link to comment
ArmachiA Posted March 13, 2014 Share #34 Posted March 13, 2014 And gosh now you all make it extremely hard and I feel bad. :< To be openly honest, I very much have been looking at both Nightblades and Unity, ever since I joined RPC. @_@ Especially since I know a couple of people in NB and/or recently joined. It was also really fun doing T1-2 (and the er Titans ) with some people from NB on Monday! Hahaha you went to that? I hear you guys did good at the turns but Titan was just eluding everyone for some reason. They way we run our Raid Groups is really simple - whoever signs up gets a slot - so the first 4 dps who sign up go,very simple, and I'm sure the Monday Coil would love to have you as a permanent member (I even go sometimes on my second character =D). We're also setting up EX Primal parties (Getting clears for Garuda and getting people to learn Titan) that work exactly the same way. Ellion has been kind of busy though and hasn't quite gotten around to posting about it yet. I also believe that once a few more of our tanks gear up we'll be trying to start up a third group, so lots of options here. Link to comment
Kage Posted March 13, 2014 Author Share #35 Posted March 13, 2014 I can make it harder and put up Equilibrium for your decision too. And I'm sure there many many others can offer places in their FCs as well. Go with your gut and where you want to be. I'm sure there will be no hard feelings from anyone, maybe a little jealousy at someone else getting such an amazing BLM Lala to their ranks. Gosh Evie you just had to make it harder already ;A; I'm a very indecisive person by nature and I'm now loaded with decisions! Hahaha you went to that? I hear you guys did good at the turns but Titan was just eluding everyone for some reason. They way we run our Raid Groups is really simple - whoever signs up gets a slot - so the first 4 dps who sign up go,very simple, and I'm sure the Monday Coil would love to have you as a permanent member (I even go sometimes on my second character =D). We're also setting up EX Primal parties (Getting clears for Garuda and getting people to learn Titan) that work exactly the same way. Ellion has been kind of busy though and hasn't quite gotten around to posting about it yet. I also believe that once a few more of our tanks gear up we'll be trying to start up a third group, so lots of options here. *nodnod* My tank is less geared but when we went to T2 waiting on a BRD, Nat said "Kage you should just tank and silence it!" Thankfully Nat learned to pf a BRD in We one-shot both T1-2, even with some high-voltages paralyzing us at right around the end of T1 ADS and during enrage. Went to do Titan HM to get some quick myth for Haru in an attempt to get another piece of gear for T4 but Titan said no. :< The butt. *wails away now at -decisions- D:* Link to comment
Evie Posted March 13, 2014 Share #36 Posted March 13, 2014 Battle of the FCs? Winner gets Kage? This way you wouldn't have to make a decision at least. Link to comment
Roen Posted March 13, 2014 Share #37 Posted March 13, 2014 Well Kage. You know what Nat and I would say. Maybe even C. But don't listen to C. He's a criminal after all. Link to comment
Kage Posted March 13, 2014 Author Share #38 Posted March 13, 2014 Well Kage. You know what Nat and I would say. Maybe even C. But don't listen to C. He's a criminal after all. But Kage doesn't know this at all. ;A; Decisions are hard when involving people. I don't want to upset anyone T_T; I've been looking at Nightblades ever since Nat kept sending me things about RPs... and I've looked at Unity along NB since I joined RPC. And. and people are so nice guhk Link to comment
Roen Posted March 13, 2014 Share #39 Posted March 13, 2014 Battle of the FCs? Winner gets Kage? This way you wouldn't have to make a decision at least. How about who can toss a lala the furthest? ... Or will that go AGAINST that FC who wins... Hmmmm. Link to comment
Evie Posted March 13, 2014 Share #40 Posted March 13, 2014 Battle of the FCs? Winner gets Kage? This way you wouldn't have to make a decision at least. How about who can toss a lala the furthest? ... Or will that go AGAINST that FC who wins... Hmmmm. Maybe a toss and catch? If you don't catch then obviously you don't win... And would Lala tossing be like caber throwing or like Javelin throwing? Can we make this into a full on server event with betting and everything? *taps chin considering logistics* Link to comment
Illira Posted March 13, 2014 Share #41 Posted March 13, 2014 ;A; Decisions are hard when involving people. I don't want to upset anyone T_T; You shouldn't worry about upsetting anyone, all the FCs in this case would be very happy to have you, but we know that you need to make what you think is the best choice for you. Sounds like Synaesthetic's already talked with you about Unity (I know that she would love to have another BLM around!), but if you have any other questions about us, I'd be happy to talk with you as well. Or run things! Or RP! Or whatever! But seriously, just try think about what you're really wanting out of an FC and which one best fits those desires. There really shouldn't be any wrong decisions here. Link to comment
Kage Posted March 13, 2014 Author Share #42 Posted March 13, 2014 Maybe a toss and catch? If you don't catch then obviously you don't win... And would Lala tossing be like caber throwing or like Javelin throwing? Can we make this into a full on server event with betting and everything? *taps chin considering logistics* Kage would like to not be dropped helplessly to the floor @_@ <3 But I'm sure the betting circle can find a away to make it happen. *nod* *deep breath* I've been anxiously and laboriously running everything through my head. I've decided for now that I really want to try my hand at Nightblades and see if I can get involved in some really nice plots, even if Kage is like... really a support character. I've been back and forth about my place in my old FC and it was with a sense of relief when I clicked leave Company after my friends said they just want to make sure I can play with them some time soon. I also spent a large time last night and today thinking over and over again about where I'd move on from there. Constant prods on chat messages aside, you've all made me feel really welcome and involved. I've spent over an hour just staring at this thread and all the posts you've all given me, trying to get some type of resolve. *throws self against a wall* Link to comment
Evie Posted March 13, 2014 Share #43 Posted March 13, 2014 While I am slightly disappointed there will be no lala tossing. I am very happy you found a place you can be happy with and to call home, And more importantly that your friends are supporting you and you no longer have to be stressed and can just enjoy the game. Hopefully we can meet in character soon, maybe not on Evie, but keep an eye out for a mysterious female miqote from Salem's past. Link to comment
ArmachiA Posted March 13, 2014 Share #44 Posted March 13, 2014 We would love to have you! I'm currently working with Roen to get her involved in our Season 3 plotline and I would be more than happy to do the same with you Hurray a new lalafell! So many Miqote. (Love you guys <3) and you can slip into Mondays Coil right now. Everyone in the group last Monday loved you, so this is the easiest acceptance ever. Link to comment
111 Posted March 13, 2014 Share #45 Posted March 13, 2014 We would love to have you! I'm currently working with Roen to get her involved in our Season 3 plotline and I would be more than happy to do the same with you Hurray a new lalafell! So many Miqote. (Love you guys <3) and you can slip into Mondays Coil right now. Everyone in the group last Monday loved you, so this is the easiest acceptance ever. Hey! I didn't love her . (Jk <3 Welcome to the blades Kage, now get your tank geared up!) And I want to be in the plotlines D: Link to comment
Kage Posted March 13, 2014 Author Share #46 Posted March 13, 2014 We would love to have you! I'm currently working with Roen to get her involved in our Season 3 plotline and I would be more than happy to do the same with you Hurray a new lalafell! So many Miqote. (Love you guys <3) and you can slip into Mondays Coil right now. Everyone in the group last Monday loved you, so this is the easiest acceptance ever. Hey! I didn't love her (Jk <3 Welcome to the blades Kage, now get your tank geared up!) And I want to be in the plotlines D: It seems that I will forever be surrounded by lots of Miqo'te *nod* and Tall people *nod* <3 Thank you! Did they? @_@ I'm glad! I get really talkative with friends that sometimes I worry that I become too talkative and that puts others off... I had a very enjoyable night and I'm also very happy that Natalie convinced people to wait for me as my computer and router was reset 5+ times >< Nat, you said we'd do the extremes to help with pally yes? Let's do it. ((Before I chicken out and run)) Link to comment
Roen Posted March 13, 2014 Share #47 Posted March 13, 2014 And I want to be in the plotlines D: I am pretty sure you will be drawn into these plots. Oh yes. And... welcome Kage! Link to comment
ArmachiA Posted March 13, 2014 Share #48 Posted March 13, 2014 Oh, Nat, you know I'm coming to you next ;o Link to comment
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