After sifting through the forums on one of our cold winter days, I ran across this thread. I don't post much, but I wanted to toss my 2 gil in.
I get what Faye is saying about undertones etc. I also get what Ren is saying about not engaging in ERP and I also understand 80% of the rest of the posts on this thread. So here is my 2 gil:
First I'll start by saying: RL orientation & or gender, for me, has zero to do with my characters or someone I may be roleplaying with. I've worked hard to step outside my comfort zones and try new things throughout the years. When I create a character, I don't usually decide on their orientation, though I usually decide on their gender identity. As I'm roleplaying the new character, sometimes I notice a "natural" tendency popping out and ta-da, they are gay, or bi, or pan, or straight. I go with the flow.
Having said that, I take full responsibility for my roleplay or lack of. I work hard on creating my character. How they look, dress, nuances, etc. Then their backstory. I try hard not to make too many super-cools or dull-dolly's. Just the right mix that would be interesting enough for other rp'ers to want to engage. Then, I create a carrd. Its free, easy to use, and you get to post all the super Gposes that your gaming heart desires. Then, I go to social areas. At least once per roleplay day, I attempt to engage people, either through emote or directly. Sometimes it takes a bit of time for people to get use to seeing my character to feel like "Okay, lemme see how this person is..." to go through their heads. Or maybe just to notice them. Considering there are hundreds or is it now thousands, of roleplayers? We have to do what we can to promote our characters publicity.
Point is, it will happen with patience. Having played all the colors of the rainbow, there are TONS of straights out there. I play a few. I tend to do slow burns on most of my characters. Not that this next bit has anything to do with the post directly, but I've found that people who are super eager to hook really fast, tend to have "other things" going on. So I like to give it a few weeks or a month before hooking. Let the story grow a bit, see if we get on and such. If someone asks me my RL gender, for a pre-req for erp, that's a red flag to me. I just thought I'd toss that out bit out there too. Obviously other things need to be known, but that's a subject for another day.
And to the non-erp'ers? - I have had lovely relationship rp without the erp. It doesn't lessen it in any form in my opinion. You could even say it saves you a bit of time
I hope I didn't ramble on too much. Good luck to everyone and may the roleplay gods bless your characters with fun.
