Question about meeting new people and walk-up RP

[Aduu Avagnar]

Speaking of looking for new employees, Nat. Nako will be doing that quite a but iver the newxt few days.

[111]

ohh meeting ideas.. ooh

 

There is a nasty bug on their neck.. do you point it out or just slap it away?

 

You dropped a coin and it rolled between their legs, do you leave it, ask or just start crawling?

 

You pet snake escaped and is loose in your robes, you dance into people.

 

He looks just like Uncle Erkilax... you owe him a big hug.

 

You ordered some cake but they got it wring now you have far too much and decide to share

 

"You have something stuck in your hair."

 

"Your zipper is undone...." (does eorzea have zippers?)

 

"Your laces are untied."

 

"What is good to drink here?"

 

"Where did you get that shirt!"

 

The possibilities are endless. Even a stupid thing can set you up for a solid connection.

[Aya]

"Oh hiiiiiiiiiiii!  Wow wasn't that a great party?  Can you believe what he did with that... wait, aren't you that [guy/gal] from Costa last weekend?"

[D'aito Kuji]

ohh meeting ideas.. ooh

 

There is a nasty bug on their neck.. do you point it out or just slap it away?

 

You dropped a coin and it rolled between their legs, do you leave it, ask or just start crawling?

 

You pet snake escaped and is loose in your robes, you dance into people.

 

He looks just like Uncle Erkilax... you owe him a big hug.

 

You ordered some cake but they got it wring now you have far too much and decide to share

 

"You have something stuck in your hair."

 

"Your zipper is undone...." (does eorzea have zippers?)

 

"Your laces are untied."

 

"What is good to drink here?"

 

"Where did you get that shirt!"

 

The possibilities are endless. Even a stupid thing can set you up for a solid connection.

 

Just the other day, after completing the Brayflox dungeon, my character was asked to help set up the banquet and there were a couple of RP'ers in the area where I needed to be.

 

So, just like I would in real life, I said "don't mind me, I'm just setting up for a banquet that's going to be held in a while."

 

And when my Chocobo accidentally walked through them, I apologized for my bo's bad behavior.

 

This generated some quick but satisfying RP and I had a chance to complain about all the trouble I've been going through to even get to the point of setting up the banquet.

 

So add: Minion/Companion does something unexpected giving you a chance to apologize or talk to anyone who might have been offended.

[Gegenji]

So add: Minion/Companion does something unexpected giving you a chance to apologize or talk to anyone who might have been offended.

 

Using your minion as a talking piece is always good. Gran's made himself a few friends, both in game and over the forums.

[C'kayah Polaali]

I'm not necessarily mean or anything, or at least not intentionally. I just sort of lack empathy I suppose when it comes to saying things that could potentially hurt peoples feelings. In most cases a person will think something and before saying it their brain tells them that is probably a bad thing to say, and online people will type something and likewise think it's a bad thing to say. For me that thought seldom crosses my mind.

 

Social skills are just that: skills. They can be learned. To some people they come early and easily, easily enough that they seem to simply be innate. To others, they don't. But that doesn't change the fact that they can still be learned.

 

It also doesn't help I think that my character is a bit salty and hard to approach, usually drunk or drinking, and when he's not he probably working on some new idea of his to pass the time. He's a be crude and brash, even a tad lecherous, the mostly just a lone wolf war vet from the Calamity.

 

Others have pointed this out, but if your character is hard to approach and tends to just sit around drinking on his own (when he's around other people), other folks will have no reason to approach him. If you're playing him like this and you're not satisfied with the RP you're getting, part of it might be simply because he's not the character for you. Not if you want to enjoy yourself.

 

Nebbs pointed this out, but it can be really fun to play a character that's desperately unlike you. That's what I did with C'kayah, and he's easily become my favorite RP character I've ever played.

[Obisi]

I feel alot of everyone's pain in joining in.  I have a friend I beg to go with me to rp on Balmung, but its hard because he has started to build a group of friends now and his story and my story aren't meshed enough to have as much going on if we rp together and I am way too afraid to just start rp'ing with people as I'm afraid I don't know the proper etiquette or will say something wrong.  I also sometimes feel like my character has to have this amazing life story to be able to participate and its still a work in progress.

 

I wish you luck and hope you find your way.

[111]

I feel alot of everyone's pain in joining in.  I have a friend I beg to go with me to rp on Balmung, but its hard because he has started to build a group of friends now and his story and my story aren't meshed enough to have as much going on if we rp together and I am way too afraid to just start rp'ing with people as I'm afraid I don't know the proper etiquette or will say something wrong.  I also sometimes feel like my character has to have this amazing life story to be able to participate and its still a work in progress.

 

I wish you luck and hope you find your way.

 

I know that feeling, but I think's not always true. I usually do not have a big back-story when I create characters. I like to sort of make simple outline and a hook, then I interact with others to determine the rest.

 

For example, if your character is a mercenary, you don't need to know every little detail, since anyone you meet won't know your character that deeply at first. As your character builds deeper bonds, that's when that stuff is important, and you can develop those ideas further.

[Gegenji]

I felt the same thing at the start. I had a little runaway kid who wanted to be a hero. That was basically it for Chachan.

 

And, to date, the only noteworthy things he's done is his winning of the Grindstone this weekend and making some armor for a Sultansworn. So an amazing life story is certainly not a requirement.

 

As for etiquette and saying things wrong? Well, I haven't heard any of the former beyond some folks liking a /tell before engaging to see if it's okay to jump in. And for saying things wrong, any mistakes or misconceptions can either a.) lead into interesting conversation both IC and OOCly or b.) be corrected/retconned into something more suitable in short order. Even as simple (( Oh, I meant... )) should patch things up.

 

I say should, because there are apparently those who run a no-takebacks approach to RPing, which is just silly to me.

[Smee]

I'm very new to FFXIV (just over a week) but from some RP attempts in the past in other games - I've had some amusing success by dressing in poor clothing, the more raggy the better, then squatting outside an Inn or other medium-busy area and offering shoe-shines to the high end clientele passing by for a few 'Gil, gold, marks' whatever. In most games I get some good participation. 

 

Complimenting the craftsmanship of their footwear, gossiping about random happenings, and general waffle can be an easy opening (whilst including action lines of what you're doing "pulls out a cloth, and begins buffing" etc) and makes for easy conversation. Quite quickly you demonstrate your RP'ing ability, and potentially make some new contacts. 

 

If this really isn't an activity that suits your character - then make an alt, and if you establish a raport with someone then you can let them know your main in a /tell and maybe be invited to bigger events.

 

Just a thought.

 

Happy RP'ing

[Aduu Avagnar]

I felt the same thing at the start. I had a little runaway kid who wanted to be a hero. That was basically it for Chachan.

 

And, to date, the only noteworthy things he's done is his winning of the Grindstone this weekend and making some armor for a Sultansworn. So an amazing life story is certainly not a requirement.

 

As for etiquette and saying things wrong? Well, I haven't heard any of the former beyond some folks liking a /tell before engaging to see if it's okay to jump in. And for saying things wrong, any mistakes or misconceptions can either a.) lead into interesting conversation both IC and OOCly or b.) be corrected/retconned into something more suitable in short order. Even as simple (( Oh, I meant... )) should patch things up.

 

I say should, because there are apparently those who run a no-takebacks approach to RPing, which is just silly to me.

There are some things that demand a no takeback approavch, in my mind, but I agree that conversations should not be part of that.