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Yeah Trys and Siben were awesome and hilarious xD

 

I loved it because you could literally taste the mutual...i dunno what you'd call it, snark? towards each other, even though they were still compelled to actually get to know each other.

 

A typical conversation between Trys and Siben:

Trys: "Stop being weird, also have you ever had teh sex?"

Siben: "Why don't you stop trying to get into my head and/or pants for two seconds and look at those people at the other end of the bar?"

Trys: "Why? you going to run over there and do your white knight routi-...Oh, my...who taught him how to do make up?"

Siben: "I know, right?"

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Oh... I can't believe I'm partially the cause for this thread... which is funny because I tend to not RP romances. It could also just be that I haven't found the right person or situation that I felt comfortable enough to explore that avenue with. My characters have had "crushes" and sometimes awkwardly flirted, but that has been it and it's usually a comedic type of thing. 

 

An interesting topic none the less.  :afro:

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I enjoy romance RP, because it builds character developement, and makes for a good sub plot in supplement to the big shibang, I have done a number in XI. in XIV my character is quite a romantic under his flirtatious (almost womanizing) exterior. I probably would get into an RP relationship on this character if it arises because I plan on it being part of his developement, he lost a lover because of his gambling and involvement with the trouble maker's of ul'dah, that blow causes him to keep his mind focused on swordsmanship, so he wouldn't have to think about it, although it stays in the back of his mind, a newly kindled flame would be important in him growing up in a way.

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Anyway, since I didn't actually get the post out I wanted to before:

 

RP Relationships are difficult creatures, like regular relationships, but you don't even get the benefit of HAWT NEKKID LUVV after a fight.

 

XI, my character only had one particular attraction, to this mithra in my LS who was played by a guy. And, we were pretty good friends OOC, so it wasn't all that creepy or anything, even though I was 14 and prone to being a really misogynistic pancake. My character chased after his for the entirety of my time on XI, but both wasn't on her radar, was on her radar while she was with someone else, and was 'going down a dark path' a la Anakin and Padme style, before that movie actually came out.

 

Then, moving onto WoW, my character was meant to just be a casual comedic relief character, but he steadily got fleshed out into a serious character again, he jumped from monogamous relationship to monogamous relationship (Due to some rather bad friends) until he became the manwhore that he was that slept with basically every woman (IC) on the server, before meeting my now fiance's character and settling down to finally rest in piece since I'm letting him die.

 

Along with D&D, and WoD, my particular experience with RP Relationships is this:

 

They're great for character development, and plot... But, you just have to be careful, like with all things. All it takes is one psycho person who doesn't know the difference, or one person who completely does a 180 on you to mess up your character forever, and if you aren't willing to accept that, you shouldn't do it in the first place.

 

Put simply:

 

Be prepared if you do it.

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Saying that rp relationship have all the bad things about a real relationship, and none of the good things, is basically saying that the only good thing about a relationship is sex.

 

Anyway, your post made me think about something, Xaefan.

I very rarely see unreturned love in roleplay. I guess it's because we don't want to see our characters hurt or something, but alot of the time, it seems like, if the crush isn't returned, our characters moves on rather quickly!

It's something I've been wanting to give a spin for a while, just haven't had a character that really would have a "crush" on anyone for a long time.. Maybe XIV is the chance ^^

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Saying that rp relationship have all the bad things about a real relationship, and none of the good things, is basically saying that the only good thing about a relationship is sex.

 

Anyway, your post made me think about something, Xaefan.

I very rarely see unreturned love in roleplay. I guess it's because we don't want to see our characters hurt or something, but alot of the time, it seems like, if the crush isn't returned, our characters moves on rather quickly!

It's something I've been wanting to give a spin for a while, just haven't had a character that really would have a "crush" on anyone for a long time.. Maybe XIV is the chance ^^

 

Was that first part to me? That's not what I was saying, if it was.

 

And, I've ac- Wait, I already said that, derp. Yeah, it's like that, Kashe.

 

It's actually somewhat fun, if you believe it. Armoa and Trysta (said Mithra my character 'crushed' on) had alot of good tender moments that made it clear that -it could work-, but it just never did.

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Saying that rp relationship have all the bad things about a real relationship, and none of the good things, is basically saying that the only good thing about a relationship is sex.

 

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you mean it's not?

 

I'm gonna have to roll with Grimace (Or however the hells you spell his name) on this one. Companionship can be completely overrated.

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I've been wanting to post in this thread all week but I've been busy with friends/family/FFXI every single day O.o

 

Nearly four years ago my current boyfriend and I met in FFXI. For the first week or so after we met IC we never said a word to each other OOC. We even RP'ed for 48 hours straight without sleeping, just going around RP-ing with our friends and helping them out with quests. Eventually things did wear on us because our characters were so close and we had so many different things going on in our real lives. I actually got upset with Zane over how much influence we had over each other in game and we broke it off IC for about six months. Oddly enough it turned out things were harder for us to be together IC and not OOC. Go figure.

 

Obviously things worked out because we live together and have a cute little girl who I have to show off because she's perfect:

loaseraphinehalloween.jpg

 

However, I think when we decided to get together IC and OOC we ended up hurting a lot of people. I really wish I could go back and fix some of the mistakes I made back then. I guess people really don't get second chances though ^^;;

 

I do agree with Castiel that there are a lot of pitfalls to playing with your real life partner. For example, I'm a pretty moderate RP'er while Zane is a very heavy end gamer. Today I really wanted to RP with TALE members, but I had to go do Abyssea with him and my linkshell. Yes, I had a lot of fun... but I am slightly disappointed I didn't get to do what I wanted to do. There are lots of drawbacks, but on the other hand, Zane is also my best friend in the entire world. Creating stories, RP'ing with each other, and playing together is one of the most awesome things in our relationship.

 

After all my experiences with RP relationships I think the most important things are knowing what you want out of the relationship, knowing what your partner expects, and being respectful of each other.

 

/rantmode "Off"

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I hope my baby girl is half as cute as your's, Crystal.

 

Though, I must slay you now, as I can't open this thread anymore while it's on this page, otherwise my fiance will start crying 'cause she can't make little fairy wings for her to wear for infant pictures.

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Xaefan, I thought I was the only one who could be up this late?! THIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE MY TIME AS THE ONLY MAN ON EARTH!

 

That baby is adorable, I hope someday when I have kids of my own they will look like that.

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I love to ERP with my linkshell friends.

 

 

I love to ERP with random strangers... NPCs... chocobos... lamp posts... fruit...

 

Mmmm Sweet sweet Rolanberry... so juicy... so... purple. How I love thee... *strokes the Rolanberry and gazes at it longingly*

 

Do you mind? I'm having a private moment here!

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I love to ERP with random strangers... NPCs... chocobos... lamp posts... fruit...

 

Mmmm Sweet sweet Rolanberry... so juicy... so... purple. How I love thee... *strokes the Rolanberry and gazes at it longingly*

 

Do you mind? I'm having a private moment here!

 

:o Aaaaaah my eyes!

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:love: :love: :love:

 

I've been married for 7 years (my husband and I met playing online.. unsurprisingly). I've RPed some rather long term romantic relationships with several people, but I've had the good fortune of having very meaningful, enriching experiences. Looking back I belive it had to do with setting clear boundaries as to what I was/was not comfortable with. I think it sends a clear message straight away and avoids any possible drama that might arise when under pressure. I don't go looking for romantic relationships and I never play overly flirtatious characters (I would be pants at it anyway), so if an opportunity for a relationship IC starts to blossom, I tend to be very cautious (or oblivious, depending on how you look at it). It will almost always be a very long journey.

 

My OH has no issue with me RPing relationships... I once played out a rather violent shouting scene with a good friend whose character was deluded into thinking my character was strongly attracted to him. Nothing physically/mentally abusive happened because we set down boundaries early on. Perhaps this directly influenced the outcome but in my opinion no one should feel they have to act out something they are uncomfortable with for the sake of staying IC. I believe it is most important for the person mentally and physically behind the toon to stay safe in all respects.

 

I've seen too many friends hurt by bad, abusive, or blatantly manipulative relationships IC and OOC and I would shudder to see it happen again.

 

Not to go all depressive mode... IC romance is great when all goes well. :love: Nothing wrong with a good old snogging sesh! I just like to play the (pretend) voice of Reason sometimes.

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