Chatting up the ladies.

[Kimikimi]

Well I am sure I don't need much introduction, my posts always seem very well popular.

 

Today I ask you how much is too much.

 

Recently I was rping with a lovely Miqo'te girl for roughly 4 hours, we talked about anything that came to mind. I was trying to get in there as most males do and kept the flow of talk going. I admit even though it was all RP I really enjoyed just sitting on a bench talking about anything that came to mind.

 

Someone happen to message me, they said "dude, you are proberly talking to a dude." And he thought I seemed a little desperate however that wasn't the case at all I truely was having a good time and my new friend did too. Whether she is truely female or not honestly does not matter.

 

Was I there too long, I could have kept going?

 

And I honestly do not care if the person is really male or female because when I RP that does not matter and I feel I am better off not knowing all together to get the full RP effect. But I would like to know others thoughts on this.

[Melodia]

I am new to rp.....but here's my two gil worth.

 

1) If you are both having fun with rp, then length of time is irrelevant.

 

2) Gender is irrelevant. Period.

[Kimikimi]

I am new to rp.....but here's my two gil worth.

 

1) If you are both having fun with rp, then length of time is irrelevant.

 

2) Gender is irrelevant. Period.

 

Well I am glad someone feels the same way.

[Ignacius]

I wouldn't worry about it too much.  It isn't because you might be speaking romantically to a man (you may well have been), but because you might also be talking to a happily married woman, a twelve year old girl, or a woman who just killed her last husband.

 

Don't worry about whether or not the person on the opposite end is a man or woman, just make sure you aren't getting personally romantic with a person playing a character.  Don't bleed your OOC into IC.

[Rynn]

Some people honestly think real life gender matters during RP. It's a childish notion, but some people honestly think that by saying that someone is not the gender they are portraying in character they'll some how shame that person as if its a bad thing. It isn't. You're fine. As long as you're both enjoying yourself, do what you wish.

[Zhavi]

If the gender of the player matters then there's some IC/OOC mixing going on. I've played male and female characters going after male or female characters with male or female players. Doesn't matter. I'm not rping for any sort of emotional connection with any player (though I have made friends with players, if I don't it doesn't matter. I've rped with some people for years and we're still not much more than polite acquaintances, and some I really don't care for on a personal ooc level, but if the rp is fun the rp is fun).

[Shayrei]

Not every RP is going to be sword fighting and adventuring. Most of the character development people make is through those long "sitting around shooting the breeze" times in between. Roll with it and enjoy! 

 

Unless you are specifically looking to find some long lasting OOC relationship (romantic or platonic), pay no mind to the shadows pulling levers behind the curtain. 

[Dogberry]

There's a large non-RP population of players on our servers who, when they see us RPing, don't quite get what we're about. They think you're really trying to score with teh hott babez online and not playing a character. You can disregard them when it comes their opinions on your RP or RP in general. It's not their fault. They're either ignorant or misinformed. Either way their input is irrelevant.

 

Also, it amuses me that so many people hold on to the idea that women don't play MMORPGs. This game has a very large female player base. The old joke about MMORPG meaning Mostly Men Online Role Playing Girls is outdated. I can say that recently I've noticed considerable representation across the gender spectrum within many of the MMO's I've played. One of the things I love about MMO's is that it allows us to come together for a common cause, not just shedding our differences aside, but using them with all of our unique experiences and talents to band together and beat the ever loving crap out of giant monsters.

[Raelas]

Its all been said above but I'd just like to say the same. Gender is completely irrelevant within RP. You play the character on your screen, not the person you are in real life (Although some really do play a version of themselves in RP which is a much easier path to blurring the lines of OOC and IC).

 

As for those who take time out of their day to /tell you things such as that? Just ignore them, you can't please everyone.

 

Don't be discouraged! A four hour long RP is kind of normal!

 

Hope to see you around on Balmung! I can't promise Yangh will be nice but I can promise she will be interesting!

[Dogberry]

I can't promise Yangh will be nice but I can promise she will be interesting!

 

Speaking of chatting up the ladies! I can confirm. It will be interesting and fun. You could end up on a cannonball run! Though she was pretty nice to Dog.

[Raelas]

What can I say? He's just a charmer who says all the right things! Captain? Check. Treasure? Check. Adventure? Check. Drinking? Check! Cannon balling into a hot tub with said Yangh riding on shoulders?! CHECK!!

 

All of these things lead to ruined upholstery and a fantastic read!

[Roen]

I am new to rp.....but here's my two gil worth.

 

1) If you are both having fun with rp, then length of time is irrelevant.

 

2) Gender is irrelevant. Period.

^

[MrPoopyButtHole]

Have fun don't take your interactions too seriously OOC and whore around ICly as much as possible. The philosophy of a drunken bard. Seriously though just have fun and ignore the trolls and dumbasses.

[111]

I'll only speak to someone if they email me a picture of their genitals first. That way I know there is no funny business.

[TheLastCandle]

I'll only speak to someone if they email me a picture of their genitals first. That way I know there is no funny business.

 

PM sent.

[111]

PM sent.

Thanks. See everyone? It's so easy to avoid these misunderstandings.

 

 

Still waiting on yours ruru.

[LandStander]

I think if you are concerned with their gender you might be crossing the line between IC and OOC. I notice that some people on both the man and woman side of things will feel odd and uncomfortable when doing romantic RP or something of the sorts with someone they know on the other end is of the sex they are normally not attracted to in their normal lives. I don't think the issue is that wide spread, but I do see it as an issue.

 

Just be mindful of your actions and pull yourself back if you find yourself stepping over that line. Remember, this is interactions between your character and this other character, not between you and whomever is on the side of the screen. Denn is big jerk IC (she recently purposely knocked a cup of water onto a Lalafell who couldnt reach it on the counter), but really I'm as sweet as a cupcake...filled with wasps..:bomb:

 

 

I enjoy tavern RP in controlled doses. You can meet new people, get involved in new plots, and really build up social connections. If you are always running around and punching stuff in the face your character becomes a bit bland. 

 

A great thing my FC leader once said is "if you want people to care about your character, you have to go out there and let others get to know them". If you end up going missing or suffer a tragic accident only your characters friends will really be majorly concerned with this. Its just like life, we don't shed tears for the thousands of people that we hear about in the news, but when it happens to someone we personally know it can break us down. 

So go on with your bad self and RP for a bizzilion hours! That is the goal I am giving you  *starts stop watch*

[Melodia]

PM sent.

Thanks. See everyone? It's so easy to avoid these misunderstandings.

 

 

Still waiting on yours ruru

 

It says the data size is too big. *ZING!* *drum riff* :lol:

[111]

It says the data size is too big. *ZING!* *drum riff* :lol:

 

It's ok, we just need to compress it. *Gets Hammer*

[Kage]

Everyone has said it but it will always be useful to keep it in mind.

 

iRL gender should not matter especially if you are having fun.

 

keep the OOC out of the IC. If you do then you wont be worrying about whether or not the character you are romancing is played by someone of the gender you are not attracted to.

 

What's hard is getting someone to romance a lala. *nods sagely*

[LandStander]

Everyone has said it but it will always be useful to keep it in mind.

 

iRL gender should not matter especially if you are having fun.

 

keep the OOC out of the IC. If you do then you wont be worrying about whether or not the character you are romancing is played by someone of the gender you are not attracted to.

 

What's hard is getting someone to romance a lala. *nods sagely*

 

*Puts on a nice outfit to go meet Kage for a date. Gets distracted by a butterfly. Never shows up.*

[Rinh Hallani]

Also, it amuses me that so many people hold on to the idea that women don't play MMORPGs. This game has a very large female player base. The old joke about MMORPG meaning Mostly Men Online Role Playing Girls is outdated. I can say that recently I've noticed considerable representation across the gender spectrum within many of the MMO's I've played.

 

Yes, thank you. I'm getting really tired of hearing "lulz no women on the internet". >.>

[Dogberry]

What's hard is getting someone to romance a lala. *nods sagely*

 

C'mere, little guy. I'll show you how hard I can romance a lala.

[Kage]

See Denn. That's the real reaaon the Sultansworn are after Denn. She keeps standing him up!

[Dogberry]

Yes, thank you. I'm getting really tired of hearing "lulz no women on the internet". >.>

 

It's funny, my wife maintains a fandom webpage and forum for the Xeno series. Y'know, Xenogears, Xenosaga, Xenoblade. The fandom, at least as represented by the users on that forum, appears to be predominantly female. They have a running joke that there are no boys on the internet. Many of them have talked about how other spaces they inhabit on the internet women out number men by a decent ratio, and these are forums and boards based around things like gaming, anime, and comics. I've noticed that the specific fandoms and subjects of the boards they use have very strong lead females (The Xeno series in particular has a ton of them, Elly, Miang, Kos-Mos, Shion, MOMO, etc.). Even when this isn't the case, they still make spaces that cater to their particular wants and amusements as it relates to their fandom. Also, when guys on forums say "lelnogrrlzondaintarbutt" it's usually in a space that's pretty abrasive toward women in the first place. So what would any self-respecting nerd do in that situation? Make their own damn sandbox that's much less hostile.