How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction?

[ArmachiA]

I actually have a bit of an issue with this sometimes. See, Armi isn't like me at all. I'm loud, brash, speak my mind, and am generally outgoing. ARMI is shy, sweet, isn't good at bringing her thoughts to words, and is really accommodating. I trust no one, Armi trusts EVERYONE.

 

This has gotten me into a few binds where I want to leave but Armi wouldn't leave, since if someone is hitting on her she wouldn't actually realize it at all unless it was extremely overt.

 

Luckily, I created a failsafe where the more overt they get (Which tends to happen if they are looking for one thing and is realizing Armi isn't catching on at all) she just bolts. She gets uncomfortable and itchy and just gets the hell out of there.

 

If they send me a tell, I then explain why and tell them to chill on the creepy.

 

I've even had ooc friends bail me out icly, if it comes to that because you don't OWE anyone rp. If you know where the direction is headed and you don't want it to go there, you have the right to stop it. Always.

 

I don't even get uncomfortable easy, or hardly ever, but I don't suffer people who just want to get in my characters pants. She is way more interesting than her genitals.

[Renata Turner]

She is way more interesting than her genitals.

QFT. That's how I feel about Eorla. She's more than a warm tunnel for a roaming adventurer. She has hopes, dreams, aspirations, and none of them really deal with finding a partner. If it happens in time, it happens, but she isn't looking for it, and she doesn't want to be involved with someone for just a tumble.

 

I mean, she's not anti-romantic things, but she takes things at face value and fails to see any hidden agenda. If someone says "You are pretty", she takes it as, they think she's pretty and are just stating so....even if "You are pretty" really means "You're doable and I'm here for that". If she says someone is handsome or beautiful, dependent on gender, she's genuinely not hitting on them. She's simply stating something she perceives to be truth. 

 

That said, I do see a relationship in the cards for her, but not a "Hey I just met you, and this is crazy, but here's my linkpearl, so call me maybe" on day one and "I'm gonna love you until Turn 70" on day two type of thing.

 

Edited to add more thoughts.

[Aldotsk]

There are those kind of people who take IC issues to OOC issues and make it into a drama.

 

But there are those kind of people who take IC issues into OOC issues, then make it into more than just a drama - by spreading unnecessary rumors and then make it more than just a simple deal. I've had several people who message me OOCly who tried to approach me awkwardly or weirdly and asked me if I was "okay" with eRP. I said no, and when people also confess to me, I still say no. I usually just change subjects, and if they start to aggravate me, I just tell them to just take a break between us. I don't blacklist them, and I don't witch hunt them. Whatever happened between me and that person is just the two of us.

 

With that all said, I've shared my awkward situations with people ICly and OOCly before and even in real life. So I clearly understand when others do that to me. I just bluntly tell them that they need to speak casually. In the end, I still might say no to whatever that person asked me to do with them.

 

If RP goes in a bad direction, I plan out and try to make a choice to see the alternative. If someone didn't PM me, then I take it as they don't intend to make it into OOC drama. But if I see myself in a position where I don't have any alternative options for myself, then I just end up telling the person OOCly to see what can be done to fix it. I don't get angry first, (I did several times on some ends when people make huge mistakes and didn't intend to ask me about anything).

 

tldr, if you feel uncomfortable, then you just tell the person that you do feel uncomfortable in roleplaying or talking with him/her. If they still bother you, then you give them a warning or block them by blacklisting.

[Meishali]

Well, looking at the thread... Everything has been said on the matter, to be honest. I personally do what is interesting for my character. In that sense, absolutely any interaction is good to take, but this doesn't mean I will role play with certain people, especially not if they act like complete creeps and expect cybering. I am not here for that, and so I will not meddle with people who appear to be here only for that. 

 

I am patient, so when/if flirt happens I usually take a good look to see if it's true, mature in character interaction from my interlocutor. If it's not, I take my leave after some IC remarks.

 

No matter how much you want to stay IC, not everybody in game is well intentioned and it is absolutely fair to hint IC that you don't want to stay or to fake your character having something else to do (even if it is against your character's personality, aka they're flirty, etc). RP is supposed to be a fun thing to do. If what you do isn't fun or if a certain character spoils your fun by sending absolutely creepy OOC remarks, what's the point of keeping it up?

 

In character or OOC, OOC or IRL, if anything makes you uncomfortable, anything at all, I believe you have the absolute right to say no and/or to leave and block/cut ties with this person.

 

I've literally been here for two days and I've seen some of these people. One of my favorite game is tormenting this kind of creeping stuff OOC by asking a lot unrelated questions. ("Do you like cabbages?" "Tea or coffee?" "My grandmother's salmon lasagnas are amazing.")

But I'm impish and this kind of situation amuses me more than it annoys me, but I'm still severing IG contact if it is too creepy. Some people are definitely desperate. But hey! It takes all kinds to make a world!

[Ryanti]

Here is a handy process

 

If RP seems to be veering off  [Give IC signals]

If IC signals don't work [Take it to OOC]

If they don't get the message [Exit]

 

Exceptions:

• You can always exit at any time
  
• You can always ask for backup at any time
  

 

Game, set, match. Nothing I could add to that.

[Lyria Stormdancer]

Here is a handy process

 

If RP seems to be veering off  [Give IC signals]

If IC signals don't work [Take it to OOC]

If they don't get the message [Exit]

 

Exceptions:

• You can always exit at any time
  
• You can always ask for backup at any time
  

 

Game, set, match. Nothing I could add to that.

 

Agreed completely, that's about how I was going to respond.

[Renata Turner]

"My grandmother's salmon lasagnas are amazing."

:? Good thing I haven't eaten today...that would have emptied my stomach.

[S'imba]

I'm generally pretty chill and go with the whole, "Do what your character would do." I don't want people to change their character for my sake. S'imba can be talked into some pretty bad situations due to his "I want to help everyone" nature. It's really changed S'imba from where he was a year ago. While a lot of stuff that's happened to him the last several months I never intended for his character have occurred and quite a bit of it I had some worry about when it started I rolled with it. It's ended up with him in situations that are way over his head but I'm ok with it due to the fact that's what happens in life. Then he deals with it the best he can. It's made him a lot stronger as a character and for me it keeps him from becoming stale to me. 

That being said if something does go bad enough to bother me I'll talk to them OOC though offer a solution that will still let both of us still have a good experience. If that doesn't work then it's just walk away. It does still have a lot of cons but it's just what makes RP an enjoyable experience for me. 

 

That's what's important RP in a way that's fun for you.