You and Me

[Melodia]

Hi my name is Melodia...aka Ruru. And I have a problem. That problem is me interacting with all of you in a positive and fun manner. I know I'm to blame as my last few months have been snarky and negative and I don't mean to be. I want to be friendly. Approachable. But lately I get nervous even posting here because I am afraid of people getting angry or upset with me. I know I have let So many down and I don't mean to. So this thread is for you all...those that want to...to critique me. From posts to my rp to anything...and I want honesty...because I feel like if I don't know how you are all feeling that I will assume and end up forcing myself out of the website and I don't want that. So...please....tell me my faults here because I need to hear them so I can fix them.

[Aya]

All of the RP we've ever done has been fun Ruru!

[Warren Castille]

This is a dangerous thread. I'd consider just PMing a few people you trust to give things to you straight. Hell, PM people you think don't like you for whatever reason and ask them to tell you why. I'm of the notion that most of this is social anxiety and due to there being no intonation in text (which causes problems for everyone).

[Aya]

I agree with the other Lala too!  Listen to the beared-Lala tough-guy   private communication is almost always better!

[Melodia]

Sadly I don't have that much pm space to pm all those people. so I'll leave it and get back to lurking

[Warren Castille]

Archive them. Delete them. Just delete your Sent folder. There's 600 spaces for PMs.

 

That is an excuse and you know it.

[Zhavi]

Yup, when I'm being all active I regularly delete the oldest of my messages, except ones with information I might need (there's an archive feature?!). What Warren says is true, and it's the same thing I've been telling you: private, assertive communication is a healthy thing to do here. I know it's a pain, because you want to just do one lump round in a thread and have done, but nothing will ever beat one-on-one for cutting through misunderstandings. Not that one-on-one solves everything (my very long series of attempts to help my mother and sister understand where I'm coming from attests to that!), but it will definitely aid here.

 

And, I mean, think of it this way: you've already tried this route before. It isn't working for you, man. Time to try something else.

 

<3s and hugs.

[Unnamed Mercenary]

Yup, when I'm being all active I regularly delete the oldest of my messages, except ones with information I might need (there's an archive feature?!).  What Warren says is true, and it's the same thing I've been telling you: private, assertive communication is a healthy thing to do here.  I know it's a pain, because you want to just do one lump round in a thread and have done, but nothing will ever beat one-on-one for cutting through misunderstandings.  Not that one-on-one solves everything (my very long series of attempts to help my mother and sister understand where I'm coming from attests to that!), but it will definitely aid here.

 

And, I mean, think of it this way: you've already tried this route before.  It isn't working for you, man.  Time to try something else.

 

 

http://ffxiv-roleplayers.com/private.php?action=export

[Aya]

http://ffxiv-roleplayers.com/private.php?action=export

 

We are really derailing this.. but my goodness I really wish I had known about this. My favorite change when we moved servers a while back was suddenly having a lot more PM space, but I still can't avoid deleting a bunch periodically. Its nice to know there's a feature to save copies

[FreelanceWizard]

I'm just going to go ahead and lock this. For reasons others have mentioned, I don't think this is a particularly fruitful topic for a thread; PM is the better place for it.

 

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