Rosekitten

well seeing as it was more or less a compromise.. it meant we didnt have to rp with the user or redo the story. More ro less it added a few foes to the fight and the character fled the fight.. Past that he was not allowed to interact or influence the other characters D;

more or less .. some drama came up (of course) we voted and agreed to kick the user after we tried to talk and reason with the user. Well of course that did not go over well. They bashed me as a leader before they left the chat and then proceeded to messed my husband in game saying that I was a bitch. o-O; just the other day he wanted to ic'ly write his character out of the FC's story.. this would force a story me and a few others had finished to re-write it and such. But as I said the issue is over with I just wanted to see what others thought on it as a whole. I wouldn't have helped him personally but .. I was sort of talked/forced into it...

On the note of brats and feeling entitled... *rubs forehead* I swear I try to let this whole issue go under the rug to be forgotten and someone has to keep bringing it up. Here is another question then... If someone bashed, harassed or went as far as personal attacks on you should you worry about helping them get a out for their character as far as a FC or some other story is concerned? Pretty much just want to see what people will say to that, personally I said no I refused to RP with someone who wanted to personally attack me ooc. A RP is suppose to be something you enjoy, if I had to force myself to RP with someone who wanted to bash me and burn the bridges before they left I doubt (no I'm pretty sure) I would not have fun doing that RP. (Granted this issue is resolved more or less as well, I just wanted to see if I could get feedback on it, like personal thoughts on if OOC bashing had a effect on if I should or should not help someone IC'ly. There were a number of other ways the character could have taken a out of the story he was in without the route that was taken...)

I think it annoyed me a little when my own FC mates started to encourage the trolls ^^; I think someone got into the rum again. My husband especially... *glares at Corwin who was laughing his butt off* D; I get he doesn't enjoy rp'ing but he didn't have to feed the trolls into coming back after we were rid of them.

Eh, the craftsman was the least er intrusive. Though I think I was still laughing at all of it and how bored they must have been as we were carrying on like nothing Their emote spam did get annoying somewhere along the lines but blacklist fixes that. Never thought to report them, kids will be kids (no matter the age).

Zero x'D i need to show you the images I got i have to admit I myself was laughing pretty hard, I was almost crying. >w< edit: granted I meant when we had the other trolls pop in and started table dancing.

I don't think I would mind if they were having just a bad day or week. Things can be forgiven. But when it is a repeat action or attitude.. that is when it becomes a real issue. In a way it was good two of them left on their own no matter what snide remarks they are making behind my back (and the other calling me a b**** rather proved my point on why he was kicked after that long talk we had with him). I did send each of them off saying I wish them the best of luck, they can take that how they wish. Though i did mean it. I wasn't trying to be smart or wish them ill luck with it. D;

Actually it made sense what you said. Though I wouldn't call myself wanting to be center of attention or popular ^^; (least in my mind I could be wrong?) But I think the ones who left were those types in some way or another... it seemed to be when I disagreed with them or didn't give them the attention a sudden outbreak of drama happened =/ Little I can do to change that though as I won't bend myself backwards to agree with someone on something I disagree with. xP I would rather come to some midway point in that both sides have their own thoughts but can accept that each other has such and such point in their views.

Pretty much after dealing with and trying to talk to each of the three people it has come down to haters going to hate. There is nothing more I can do in my power to settle things back to where the group of us are friends as they seemed to have already made their minds up. As a leader I do listen to everyone's side of things and I keep a close tab on the skype chat my group is in. As well as the FC and LS chats. I ask people to come to me or a officer or the other leader if something, anything bothers them. This issue I had could have been avoided ages ago and maybe solved in another way altogether if they had followed that one simple request... Pretty much now from the members I still have I get told that I can't please everyone no matter how hard I try. It is true and I know it is but it still stung a bit that this was just so suddenly and seemed to be something that could have been taken care of easily if someone had spoken up sooner instead of letting it bottle up and explode. As far as cutting yourself off from people, that was one of the members who left issue. They seemed upset at the thought that our FC might get new members... Riddle me that on why someone would be upset to make new friends but they flat out told me that they would not get along with anyone new due to past experiences. O-o;

Magellan - I hope ^^; i mean i have met some great people through it.. so i hope all bumps in the road are smoothed out for a while at the least.

Magellan - I shall if i catch you on in game :3 either sounds fantastic to me. But yes.. its .. I hope it just evens out. Not sure what i'll do with as much work as i put into this characters back story. I don't really feel like making a new character just to make up for it being destroyed if it happens. >.<; I also refuse to leave just yet. I want to work things out so we'll see. The FC is still new so bumps are bound to happen. edit: Vito - i dont think it even had to do with my character o-O they just suddenly out of the blue hated me as a person. We were all good friends till.. um yeah something happened? I mean there are characters i dislike but i woulnt hate the person.. I thought that was common sense >.>; Heck i might go as far if i dislike the person i might still enjoy the character xP

Ah yes.. the RP part.. yeah it's messed our story/ group up a bit as our only medic just up and high tailed on us as well as a experienced fighter. But I think... we can recover still. We've been trying to keep things so we can roll with the punches till things are better settled =/ I still feel a bit on the outside and I'm one of the two leading the FC xP

I never ran from it, just a bit confused by where it actually came from honestly. In fact as of last night I think I took care of any loose ends that might have been left otherwise... I wasn't about to leave someone in the FC that could potentially start drama later once we do get more members. Especially over something that was long handled. I know drama happens everywhere... normally there is some logical reason behind it though. But so far I can only gather that I didn't agree with them so they all three turned and decided to cut off all ties as friends. A pretty poor reason if you ask me but hey as I said I think this is all taken care of.. so long as they keep their hate to themselves and don't go harassing the FC members I'm not sure I really care what they think. Not after trying to reason with all three.

Well To admit to back what you said J'hared I do RP to sort of get away from life. Not because I have a bad one but because it's my form of creative expression when I go through art dry spots (often). But I can see what you mean about striking over the smallest thing.. I'm fairly certain thats what happened here. I know I have met a few gems and thus far most that I have met on here have been great to just chat with. *nods* But yeah... I think that whole playing 'nice' is sorta what happened here and when I refused to cave to their will they lashed out in other ways. Just my thoughts on it I could be wrong but that is certainly what it feels like to me. Session - Yeah i know.. ii keep telling him that. I use to be on a WoW RP server and it was fun ^^ I didn't rp but it was fun to read the creative minds at work. Here's hopeful that we have all these issues behind us eh? I just have this uneasy feeling we've sadly not yet herd the end of it. edit: Armi - it just really bothered me that out of the blue 3 people hated not really the FC but what I 'turned' it into even though the goals of the FC never changed in the slightest... =/ It rather hurt the moral as a whole to lose like three founding members.

Oh no i have had 0 issues with non-rp'ers actually o-o; no this was hate from other RP'ers. Ones that were once friends of mine until.. well I'm still trying to figure out what exactly happened. Though odds are I'll never have that answer. I had read on this site how friendly and welcoming everyone seemed to be so the last thing I thought I'd have to deal with was hate from fellow rp'ers. In and OOC the people here seemed fantastic. Though I guess granted the ones I seemed to run into issues with were not members of this site but ones that I met through other people and from a FC that I never even passed the application process of due to one of the people I am having a issue with now heh... As far as what happened.. A small group of us started a FC to play together ya know? Friends wanted to play together and expand a bit and open our rp idea to others. Though somewhere that went sour to say the least so one left and never spoke to me after that. More or less bashing me to the others who they still spoke with. This in turn lead to two others causing issues in the FC. Issues that sprang up from a story told by the first one that ditched us. But to ask the three of them I am the worse person on the planet to be around ^^; to be quite honest I have never had people just hate me and not be able to give me a reason as to what made them hate me... actually I'm very easy to get along with >.<;

So I am not new to MMO's to say the least, nor is this really my first time on a RP server in a game. But from my experience with the community of this game as a whole and from my experiences with the RP'ers as far as the Balmung server goes it has been almost nothing but drama, one thing after another. To admit I have never bothered being in or running a RP based guild. So this is my first experience with that, I am not new to guild leading though. So I know drama happens. But man... this mess I got a hold of was just ... wow. Is it normal to find people who are irrational and go from being good friends with you to just hating you with a sudden flip of a coin? I've been told by others I did nothing wrong but seeing as my tally of people I seem to be hated by is up to three I am starting to question that. My husband even informed me if we switch games at some point that he ill not be playing on a RP server due to the drama that we have dealt with here already. So his first time experience on a RP server is very poor to say the least. So I just wanted to ask the community here... is it common to find people who are so judgmental and one sided that if you tell them something and they disagree with you that they just turn to hate you? My husband seems to think it is a RP'er thing, I keep trying to tell him I don't think it is that. >__<; (I hope this was the right forum) --------- updated: Here is another question then... If someone bashed, harassed or went as far as personal attacks on you should you worry about helping them get a out for their character as far as a FC or some other story is concerned? Pretty much just want to see what people will say to that, personally I said no I refused to RP with someone who wanted to personally attack me ooc. A RP is suppose to be something you enjoy, if I had to force myself to RP with someone who wanted to bash me and burn the bridges before they left I doubt (no I'm pretty sure) I would not have fun doing that RP. (Granted this issue is resolved more or less as well, I just wanted to see if I could get feedback on it, like personal thoughts on if OOC bashing had a effect on if I should or should not help someone IC'ly. There were a number of other ways the character could have taken a out of the story he was in without the route that was taken...)

Updated the front a bit, will work more on it later

there updated the HQ location and I need to steal that and work that into this post somehow Ari hrm..

To admit I did want to go to the Gala, just to see what all the fuss was about. Though as far as my character he had zero means or drive to go to such a thing, let alone at that point the character didn't have a want to leave Limsa either I personally like smaller events, just my preference. I'd rather get a group of five or so together and let everyone get a chance for interactions rather then have chat moving so quickly that you have no chance. Plus I feel it's more realistic if I stick to how my character would naturally act and not force things because of something I would like. So as far s a character... unless he is dragged to a larger event there are few odds e'll be seen at them (though the Captain is talking about being involved more, I feel my character may be doomed ).

Heh I think my character has more flaws then he has strengths at times. As far as this point in his story anyway. Currently the phobia of water is very much still there (funny as his home is in Limsa). There is also a dislike towards Lalafell's for reasons somewhere along the lines of being knocked out and shoved in a shipping crate seemed to justify this. Not fond of tight spaces, though not really a said weakness as he can deal with that one better then the water fear. It takes a little bit for him to open up to others depending on the situation. Can be a bit cruel without meaning to, beating around the bush isn't a strong point. Hrm.. there was something else. Oh, he's a workaholic, not really a weakness or bad thing but once he's on a task or has set his mind to one that is where his mind will be till it is seen through. This sort of adds the difficulty that some might have at getting close to him. He's really not anti-social ^^; just distracted. Seeing as someone brought up it being more fun to not know such information. I can see this but at the same time it is fun to read about characters weaknesses or flaws. Odds are most characters may never run into one another anyway let alone someone remembering every rp characters weaknesses or strengths. ^^;

I need to update a few things on this already >w<; so much to do *twiddles on site again*

*shakes head* Nat.. behave, yer scarin' the youngin's D;

*rubs forehead a little* do I have to put you two in separate corners?

now now... behave before yo go scaring them off

We need to make some of the others poke this D;