Es'mena

That sounds great! I'm a little busy until Sunday with a big server event on WoW, but I still like to hop in and add people - I'll shoot you a friend request and a PM so we can work something out!

That's always struck me as so silly, personally - the writing/RP experience/ability equating to how accepting people will be of you, but alas~ I guess being relatively new to FFXIV RP, even though I know the cultural implications of what a Nunh is, I don't really consider them to have a lot of power. But then again, I do play a character that kinda threw up the middle finger to all of that, so that probably has a bit to do with it! So I see and understand your point!

Hello and welcome! ♥

What I also find interesting here is, if you play a male miqo'te with the last name "Nunh", the harrassment seems to be able to rival what female ooc/ic players can experience in the shape of nasty tells. My general opinion is that Balmung used to be way worse than it is, presently - You can go into the Quicksand on a female character without getting a single creepy tell, these days. As for OOC aggression from men, I've seen the people who have strong opinions about it but haven't has the (dis)pleasure of interacting with them more than once. As I see it, they are a minority - that can just be a bit vocal. It's nothing I'd compare to ending up with a stalker-type that is out to manipulate you ooc for various reasons, including the standard guy-wants-gamer-girl. So I think if girls want to play guys to get away from that kind of harassment it's still a fairly effective shield. What the heck, are you serious? Lmao, WHY? Do people get weirdly defensive of others writing as a literal 'alpha' male type of character? That is such a strange thing - being more defensive of Nunh as opposed to Tia. They're all dude characters in the end.

If you're a woman playing a man (especially a hot woman) the guys that are hostile are usually interested in you OOC but can't progress it through IC bleed because they don't play gay characters. Cause I know several girls who play guys and I haven't had any reason to hate them for it. Cause it doesn't bother me. Lol I know in her case she is very attractive and plays a very attractive mostly-straight male character. We ASSUME that it's jealousy on the male player parts, but I never really considered the OOC interest not being able to be progressed IC. That's an interesting (and creepo) thought. Huh!

I've always seen this question pop up and I hear answers from alllllllll different sides and different types of people. Personally, I am a woman and I write for women more than I do for men, but I never really gave it any thought. I know aesthetically I find women more pleasing and if I'm going to be sitting in a game to RP, I want something nice to look at - so I'm sure that's a good chunk of the reasoning, at least for me. An interesting note is that I have friends that are women that play men due to poor treatment they received on their female characters. Though they also say as a woman playing a man (a very well liked one), they get a lot of hostility OOC from men. Anyone else experience this?

Recently got my apartment all set up and finally took some pics of it, so~

My first MMO character was for SWTOR - Es'merelda Danen, whom I've semi-recreated in WoW and now in FFXIV (by staying with a base theme and manipulating a good chunk of it in a different way each time). I always refer to her affectionately as my baby and I p much love her dearly. While her story more or less ended, she didn't die, so she's teeeechnically my oldest, longest-surviving character based on years played. If we're talking about oldest, longest-surviving in THEIR years, I think it's my villain sin'dorei over on WoW, Karsteth. He's over two centuries old and he's not dead...yet.

I love me some pirate RP~ While my character isn't on GREAT terms with most pirates, we should try and work something out if you'd like to!

This looks great!

I will def keep an eye out! Thanks so much!

This is what I default to a lot of the time. For age, height, weight, it's sometimes easier to just use vague "young adult, average, thin" etc.

Hey, I recognize you!! You were a blast to watch the first night I came and I'm glad we got to run into each other again (even if my character was a bit short and then skittered off with Rhysa). Your tavern nights are very, very fun and I've made sure to spread the word to friends. :> Hope to see you at the next!

Hello! Thanks so much for the reply - Es'mena absolutely LOVES books! I should be free sometime this week, so I will look for you and pop you a whisper! I'd love a good reading spot for her! Thanks so much! ♥

Hello! It was recommended to me to make a post here in Making Connections, and so here I am! My main (and only) character is Es'mena Nenda and she incorporates my insane love for pirates. However, she's not technically a pirate herself...which is where I'm wondering if anybody would like to help or join in! The way I have her story written is that she used to be a pirate but was more or less blacklisted/her reputation was ruined at sea, so she went to the air instead. She is now an airship captain (through some finagling and story~) and focuses mainly on smuggling rather than piracy. But she dreams of returning to the sea sometime before she dies or is too old to do so. So! I'm wondering if anybody is interested in any of the following: 1. Business partners! Need goods shipped? The air is the way to go! Maybe they can be new business partners or established! She also transports passengers as well, so maybe your character regularly uses her as a mode of transportation! 2. Old ties - bad! Pirate captains at sea might know her name. While the only charge I've drummed up (partially due to laziness T u T) has been killing her own captain in a failed mutiny attempt, I've written that much worse has been said about her to earn her that blacklisted brand. PLEASE feel free to make up your own heinous rumors about what she might have done that got her booted off the seas. Maybe your character genuinely believes it! Might be fun to run into one another for some good old fashioned antagonistic RP! 3. Old ties - good! Maaaaaaybe you're a pirate captain that thinks it's a little fishy (no pun intended) that she suddenly turned on her captain - and that the other rumors sound really weird. We can always run into each other and talk it out! She's looking to try and change her reputation back, so it would definitely offer an in for some story and RP! If you are interested in any of this (or have an idea for something different!), please feel free to hit me up! In game: Es'mena Nenda Discord: Jessipalooza#0508 Tumblr: jessipalooza.tumblr.com Hope to see you all around! https://wiki.ffxiv-roleplayers.com/images/4/47/Esmena.PNG[/img]

Using the OP's example, I think it's just polite to request OOC if it's ok that your character overhears the conversation and intervenes. I think it's less about public RP and more about common courtesy. Sometimes people are using a place in game as a stand in, or they are writing something from a few days past and postdating it. There are plenty of situations that may call for no intervening - or they may completely be down for it and hoping to have someone overhear! So I wouldn't judge these people too harshly if they want their privacy or not to be held accountable for what they're talking about in /s or /em. You never know their reasoning for it, and they don't really need to give one either when all is said and done.

Welcome, Es'mena! The community here is very friendly and super helpful. I've only been here a few days, myself (played FFXIV--my only MMO--a couple years back), and I'm liking it so far. Good to see new faces. :thumbsup: Thanks so much, I really appreciate it! I'm glad you seem to be liking it as well! :>

I. Basic Info Characters: Es’mena Nenda Primary character: Es’mena Nenda, an airship captain that touts herself as a fantastic choice for business, be it to have cargo shipped or to transport passengers from here to there. If there is no vested or potential business interest, she can be a bit of a brat (blunt and open-minded), but if she senses that there is gil to be made, she can be charismatic and charming, if not more than a little pushy to talk her way into the best deal she can get. (Wiki is in my sig!) Linkshells: Just a few private LS for friends. Primary RP linkshell: None. II. RP Style Amount of RP (light, medium, heavy): Medium - I love, love, love to RP, but most of my time is taken by friends and responsibilities in WoW. However, I am capable of running both games and multitasking, so often times, I can be idling around in both. Likewise, I do RP over discord, though I will be very honest and say that I’m awful at keeping up responses. Views on RP combat and injuries: In my experience, whenever RP has turned to combat, it’s been with people I normally trust enough to just do text fighting back and forth and we are both very giving and forgiving to make the fight equal or equivalent to the varying talents/abilities of the parties involved. I’m absolutely fine playing the winner, the loser, unhurt, and hurt. So long as any drastic injuries are agreed to and communicated OOC beforehand, I’m good! Views on IC romance: I’ve never been one that seeks out IC romance, but I’m not opposed to it if the story leads that way. If it does happen, I do not like fast and quick romances. If your character is quick to fall, that is AOK and I’m absolutely fine with that! But the way I write my own, it can be quite some time before she develops feelings beyond something friendly. So long as there’s an understand and patience, and so long as it feels organic to the writing, I’m 100% okay with it! Views on non-romantic RP (family ties, etc): I dig it! The primary focus of my writing is piracy, business,smuggling, witty action and adventure, drama, etc. A majority of what I write and RP is non-romantic, so I’m absolutely fine with it. As for family ties, I’m a bit stringent with writing those in unless it’s someone I know very well. Previous acquaintances (business or friends), however, I’m fine with arranging. Just hit me up! Views on lore: I think lore is a very, very good base to get your roots in and allow it to bloom into a story. However, I’m not opposed to people stretching or bending – or even breaking. You do you, boo! I will always reserve the right to RP with those that match my style and the way I interpret stories and lore, but never will I ever restrict others from writing what they want. I fully support it. As for myself, I try to stick to lore, but I bend it a little myself if I find a plot or story device that I really, really want to incorporate. Views on chat functions (/say, /linkshell, etc): Right now, I only have LS as OOC chatrooms, but I think they could function well as a communication device. I’m not a huge fan of RPing solely in them (using them as forum RP), but I use party chat sometimes for privacy’s sake. Sometimes I’ll say something OOC in /say or /em, but it’s usually very obvious when it happens – I’ll be away from RP areas and obviously messing around, and usually only in a group of friends. III. Other Info Country: USA Timezone: EST Contact info: Discord or tumblr are the easiest ways to get hold of me! Discord is Jessipalooza#0508 and tumblr is linked in my signature!

Hello! I'm relatively new to FFXIV RP, but I've been RPing in MMOs for about 6-7 years and RPing in general for longer. It started on TOR (The Ebon Hawk, Pub side - Es'merelda Danen) and then went to WoW (Moon Guard, Horde side - Ésmé). While I spend most of my time on WoW due to all of my friends and officer responsibilities, I've found FFXIV to be enjoyable since the release of Stormblood and finding some game play that I actually really dig! I've heard pretty good things about the FFXIV community (I'm on Balmung~), so I'm hoping to see all of you around! If ever you see me in game, please feel free to send me a tell or just walk right on up!

I can't speak for everyone, but one of the wider quoted reasons is trust. A lot of people don't want to risk jumping into writing something romantic with strangers, or others that they're not confident will maintain an IC =/= bond. Likewise, some get the comfort and/or rush from writing being in the relationship rather than getting to it. It's definitely a preference thing and I don't think it's bad either way (not meaning that anybody in here was saying such!).