Sex and Your Character/Roleplay (NSFW Discussion)

[Emeraven]

Eorsza, seems like a place where the historical prejudice of our own, world isn't apparent in this land. But I havent as yet, seen NPCS who have alternative sexuality.

 

Go to the Observatorium and listen to the two Elezen on the bunk beds' conversation.

Thank you for pointing this out and also thanks to ArmachiA , I am very grateful that they made that choice with the culture of the Eorza

[Kailia]

Well lets see, I started out in a traditional Tribe RP for K'ailia, which definitely involved a Nuhn, Tia's, and sex. One of the reasons my character is no longer part of the tribe was because of her fear of sex, and a fellow tribe mates stance with her about mating.

 

The irony though, months after her exile, she ended up being courted by a male miqo'te, and is now engaged to be married when the marriage system comes in. However, she's still got an adventurous spirit, she wants to see new places, experience new things, so even though sex is part of marriage, she does not want to get pregnant.

 

But sex is part of the world, and given her tribal background, sex is a part of her story.

[chaoticsleepy]

Similarly to some others in the thread, Xheja very much views sex as something to be used as a tool. As a manipulator-type, she knows that there is definitely a good deal of influence in sexuality, and she isn't afraid to flaunt that if she feels like going such a route will get her from point A to point B. But with that being said, if she sees no value in gaining favor with the person for whatever reason, her willingness to participate in any kind of sexual activity with them is nonexistent and she can be downright frigid.

 

Likewise, in terms of sexual preference, whether a partner is a man or a woman is ultimately irrelevant to her. Coming from a highly female-populated Keeper tribe, bisexuality and homosexuality amongst the females of her tribe was somewhat normal. So, Xheja tends to not use a person's sex as an overriding determining factor of sexual attraction, though she does tend to lean towards males over females. Likewise, others' sexualities tend to phase her very little, though male homosexuality sometimes intrigues her as it was rather uncommon in her upbringing (though still not taboo, given that the males in question were still willing to procreate in the interests of perpetuating the tribe).

 

The dominance factor of sexuality is something else that she tends to be very flexible with, depending on how she.. 'feels out' what a partner wants from an encounter, for lack of better phrasing. It's all about manipulation and wrapping others around her fingers, so whether she accomplishes that by being more aggressive or passive, submissive or dominant, etc. is ultimately situational. Left to her own devices though? She tends to be more of an aggressive submissive. (Which makes sense to me, but not sure if it makes sense to anyone else, haha.)

 

Finally, the matter of sexuality and emotion.. For Xheja, the two are absolutely and utterly separate. That said, though she is currently unable to really have any kind of true emotional connection to anyone, she does occasionally experience actual physical and sexual attraction to others if she deems them interesting enough for her. Though her criteria for what counts as 'interesting' tends to lean more towards the intellectual and charming, rather than purely on looks alone. So even if she does feel a sexual attraction to someone, it is highly, highly unlikely that there is any emotional attachment behind it. As such, concepts like romance and monogamy aren't important to her.

[CalebAgron]

Humm I need to keep up with these forums more often, glad this has been kept civil and mature. So Sex and my character/roleplay, alright I'll share my and Caleb's views.

 

Caleb's:

For starters Caleb is a sexual person, though not to the extent that Berrod is. He enjoys sex and thinks its a completely natural way to express how you feel about someone. His sexuality isn't limited to one way or the other, he swings both ways and enjoys both the female and male forms, though his tastes in the sexes differ greatly.

 

With males he prefers those who can challenge him physically, enjoying the struggle for dominance, which is why he and Berrod have such a good time in the sheets. As Berrod mentioned their sexualities are very alike in regards to dominance so it's a clash of the titans both in and out of bed. And while neither like being dominated, it somehow works out for them in a natural 50/50 way.

 

With females he enjoys the chase, preferring those who are shy/quiet and make him work for their attention. Blond's in particular catch his eye, though none of these preferences has prevented him from appreciating females who don't fit any of the above descriptions.

 

As mentioned before his character is not as driven by sex as Berrod is, but he is a man and he has needs. Now if only he could find some shame! :lol:

 

Mine:

So my views on ERP have evolved over the years and games, it's actually interesting now that I think of it. I started roleplaying way back in my World of Warcraft years as a female human mage. The focus of my roleplay tended to be more battle/story oriented and I don't think my character was ever approached in a relationship way. At least I can't remember her being approached.

 

Then there was City of Heroes /City of Villains (Amazing game and I hope the talk of them bringing it back or giving it a reboot is true! would be a fun "off game" to this one!) Again much like WoW it was more super hero focused, though I did explore the friendship stuff a little more in depth.

 

From there I went to Star Wars TOR, this is where my RP skills were really pushed and improved by a guild called The Republic Order. Shout out to my TOR friends! This group really helped me develop my RP skills and this is where my character really got into the more friendship driven RP.

 

Though as a Jedi, she was very non sexual because of obvious reasons! Really miss the game...well not the game so much as my old RP buddies , wish I could convince them to come to FF!

 

Then there was FF that again pushed me to improve my RP skills (that can always use improvement). I found a great group or roleplayers, started roleplaying and Caleb's relationship with Berrod just sort of happened. I'm now old enough and mature enough to appreciate the finer points of RP and view ERP as just another extension of character depth.

 

I think it adds something to a character that you can't get otherwise, though I understand and respect others decision to not partake in it. I also understand that people who "RP" solely for ERP ends aren't actually roleplaying, they are cybering and those are two very different things.

[Lyon]

This has been a really interesting read and I'll add my opinion (and Lyon's) in as well.

 

I imagine this is one of those subjects where people have a hard time telling between IC and OOC feelings because of how intimate a subject like sex can be for people. I don't look down on ERP and I don't even mind people who make characters to that end, as someone had already pointed out, if two people are willing and eager to do it in privacy then I'm not one to judge.

 

Lyon is a bit of a naive person with a very basic understanding of society and people in general. She actually had an encounter with a prostitute and found the whole idea of it vaguely glamourous and exciting, however when it comes to sex itself Lyon is obviously inexperienced and thus doesn't feel confident sexually. When she was 'hit on' by another character she tried to give the illusion of confidence by playing along but was actually covering for her own insecurity. Lyon doesn't have a 'type' and is very much more personality focused but may not be opposed to a one night stand or something similar if the situation was right.

 

Speaking OOC again, I'm not opposed to having an RP relationship with someone else, provided it makes logical sense for the character. In terms of engaging with ERP itself, I could see myself taking part to the extent that it continues to forward the character but if it just comes down to the gritty details I would then opt for a 'fade to black'.

 

It's one of the more interesting subjects of RP that's for sure.

[Jazz Egi]

I personally have no problems with sex scenes in RP. After all, explicit scenes find their way into many genres and sex itself adds an extra layer to social dynamics.

 

That said, Weaver is a pure maiden who is too awkward to ever seal the deal.

[Star Lin]

Hm, that is and interesting question.  For me, I did dabble on a certain server in WOW that was big on the EPERs, though I did stay on it long enough to get into some of the heavier/weirder stuff that I hear goes on there.  I'm more of the type that if the story heads that way and both myself and the other player agree to go for the Home Run so to speak that that fine.  If the other player whats just a fade to black, I'm fine with it too.  As for my two characters that I play on Balmung, I'm keeping them down the middle on their sexuality.

 

Kestlona Guhtegeiswyn: She's grew up running around Limsa Lominsa so she has seen what sex looks like from running through those dark alleyways.  Since she still new in Uld'ah she hasn't made many connection through either the miners' guild or Adventurer's guild.  However it plays out from interaction with other characters will be determined by the story.

 

John Waterstrike: He might look like he's from the keeper but he was raised by a Hyur couple and had something of a shelter life.  He going to be looking more for his own identity, so part of it will be experimenting in sex through in my head, I thinking about having him lean more toward being attractive to males.  Again, it will only go as far as the other player wants as well.  First, I should get him out of Limsa so he can actually start meeting people.

 

So any guys that happen to be in Limsa that see a Keeper of the moon giving you shy glances over his book or from under his fishing hat, it just my Miqo'te.

[DreamedReality]

Since I do enjoy romantic/couple roleplay (which does include sex) I do make preferences for the characters I make. I also believe that a person's sexual identity and their sexual preferences colour how they interact with others. So it is a valid form of character development for me. While I don't really expect a relationship to happen I like to have a good idea of how one can develop with whatever character I make and actually RP out that development.

 

For example:

 

• Jaques is bi with a strong preference for woman.
  
• He identifies completely as male and is fairly comfortable with his body.
  
• He is picky in terms of race. He flat out is not attracted to roegadyn males, lalafell, miqo'te, or midlanders. It's a size thing mainly.
  
• Is not promiscuous. He can count the number of partner's he's had on one hand.
  
• He is monogamous.
  
• He is dominant.
  
• He prefers confident partners. (This is a bit of a sticking point for his current relationship.)
  

So that is the the filter I had in place for Jaques. Just so happened that Vaughn fit into his preferences nicely -and- they both have the patience to work through each others' backstory drama.

 

As far as sex in this relationship goes... they are both active males in their prime. And they both use sex to fill in for 'x' vice indulgence. For Jaques it's his alcoholism. So this has been a detriment as they will put off tasks and work for sex. Once one starts the other has a hard time saying no.

 

And the whole actual ERP thing? I have no real preference myself beyond that whatever relationship our character's have... it -has- to involve more than just sex scenes. I leave it to my RP partner to draw the line when such scenes crop up.

[TheLastCandle]

Well, this was lovely. Show's over, folks!

[TheShii]

I feel sexuality shouldn't ever really be a taboo subject. Whether it's with porn, an erp'er, or just a casual aspect like any other aspect of someone's rp. I myself don't rp sexual things often enough to even be considered by most to be into that sort of rp to begin with, and I've been told that sometimes my characters in mmo's tend to come off a bit asexual in nature haha

 

Either way I view sex in rp like how I view everything else. Conflict, violence, death, love, rivalry.. so on. Get certain ingredients into a pot and you get a certain flavor, viola.

 

As far as my main goes, Eshkin is an adult male and wouldn't be adverse to sexual relations, nor is he odd towards it. I've used it as a sort of bit of side spice, staying the night with a stranger (npc) for the night to pass the time, flirting with an attractive individual... so on. It's not his main aspect, nor is it a obnoxiously huge aspect of him, but it's about as prominent as rp'ing everyday things like background noise or getting involved with another character that flips the right switches.

 

Last chance I got to rp him, he was picked up by a lallafel severely wounded out in a barren snow ridden wilderness and he was still recuperating when I had to take a long break from ff, there never really was any chance for any sort of romantic or sexual interaction with other characters lol It's just the vibe I get from him.

[Gaspard]

@ TheLastCandle : Screw you for giving me a hard-on at work.

 

On a serious note;

 

I'd advice that you don't become as.. haphazard over it. ERP isn't just roleplay. Yes, if you take it by very distanced, closed off measures, it is. Still, Women (unless the whole world was lying to me) Like to feel desired, to be enough to satisfy your needs, and the moment you consume 'any' other sexual material (May that be pornography, erotic novels and/or ERP), she may feel inadequate to your needs / sexual prefferences.

 

Oh, and a good measure in this regard is to think of it in a catch 22. Imagine your Girlfriend texting dirty/hot things with a male friend of hers, material that could potential 'turn her on'. Would you feel comfortable with that?

 

Don't forget, even if ERP is just RP, it's also Erotic, and people don't consume Erotica for the sake of the 'storytelling'.

[ProvaDiServo]

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[Sophia_Grave]

Sophia thinks of it as a vulnerability, and she regularly exploits it to manipulate others. As for her own needs, its purely physical. While not exactly one to sleep around, she'd definitely go for a physical arrangement with another, if she weren't in something of a relationship already.

[Dat Oni]

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[TheLastCandle]

You're welcome! -takes a bow- But unfortunately, the show is over. Lol.

 

All I'm going to add, aside from the juicy tidbit that was already posted, is: if you decide to pursue an IC relationship at all, but especially if your story ends up going to a sexual place, please ensure that your character's partner(s) are in a healthy state of mind. Be picky as hell. Seriously. Things can spiral out of control very easily, and I consider myself fortunate that when I decided to express my character's romance IC, it was 1.) safe, with a very good friend, and 2.) with someone in a very happy relationship OOC, whose RL partner knew what was going on and what IC and OOC meant, and who would never dream of allowing things to become inappropriate OOC.

[Lady Rivienne]

@ TheLastCandle : Screw you for giving me a hard-on at work.

 

On a serious note;

 

I'd advice that you don't become as.. haphazard over it. ERP isn't just roleplay. Yes, if you take it by very distanced, closed off measures, it is. Still, Women (unless the whole world was lying to me) Like to feel desired, to be enough to satisfy your needs, and the moment you consume 'any' other sexual material (May that be pornography, erotic novels and/or ERP), she may feel inadequate to your needs / sexual prefferences.

 

Oh, and a good measure in this regard is to think of it in a catch 22. Imagine your Girlfriend texting dirty/hot things with a male friend of hers, material that could potential 'turn her on'. Would you feel comfortable with that?

 

Don't forget, even if ERP is just RP, it's also Erotic, and people don't consume Erotica for the sake of the 'storytelling'.

 

That wasn't Yve, by the by.

[Gharen]

Gharen's view on sex and sexuality is pretty much tainted by his past. He doesn't actively seek a relationship, doesn't flirt, and sex quite literally doesn't even enter into his thought process as that drive has basically been beaten out of him. He was raised believing that he was less than worthless and that no woman would ever want him as such. He is more or less completely oblivious to subtle social cues regarding this as a result.

 

He'd never been with a woman until not long ago, and was laughed at when he admitted the fact. And to this day remains both surprised and confused as to why she'd ever wanted to be with him from the get go, regardless of how often she, or others, might tell him why. (Years of abuse and belief, just don't get unraveled in a day.)

 

That said, I think sex and relationships in RP can be important and are a viable means of character development regardless of the means via fade to black or not.

 

One thing I'd like to point out is in CoH there was a distinction players made that I don't really see get made here very often if at all between MRP and ERP. ERP being players that were just doing the act for kicks, and MRP for people that actually RP and would delve into mature topics for story or character development.

[FreelanceWizard]

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#magicAdminHat

[Dat Oni]

I removed the quoted text because it was posted using a compromised account.

 

#magicAdminHat

 

GIVE US OUR SMUT BACK-I mean, thank you!

[Kellach Woods]

Yeah I was wondering what was up with that.

[Chillsmack]

So the majority of characters give it up, it seems.

 

Let's hear it for Whore Pride! *high five*

[Lan Darklyn]

Lan:

Lan's sexual experiences are pretty limited. Before his mate he had only had sex on two occasions. Well on one occasion he woke up in a bed with two duskwight women snuggled up on either side of him. that was when he realized what whiskey does to him...So yeah he does not know if anything even happened, but there were all in bed naked so his mind of course drew a conclusion. He second encounter was with a nurse just before he went into battle at Carteneau. They were scared and thought they were going to die, why not? And now he has his mate Qih Lyehga. Lan is a very private man and up until recently he would not even kiss his woman in public so there is no way in hell he will talk about his sex life. However the two of them have shown a strong desire for intimate time with each other and neither of them is more dominate than the other, it sort of swings back and forth.

 

Kylar:

Kylar is a fairly new character and he does not have a actual partner right now. However as part of his back story he has been with several women in the past. He has no problems with one night stands but he will seek out only women that are just looking for a bit of fun and not an actual relationship. Recently he developed a strong attraction to a woman that would have likely settled him down, but he remains just a friend, which oddly enough he is comfortable with. So he continues to flirt when he can and we shall see where the future leads.

 

Yep, sex happens. It has never been a primary focus of my RP but it happens.It can make the character development feel very organic. It took a long time for Lan to even admit to Qih that he was attracted to her and even longer until they actually spent the night together. Building the relationship is a lot of fun in my opinion. As far as Kylar's casual encounters, they are also sorta a way of developing him in that it shows that this glasses wearing nerdy looking guy has a lot more going on than just reading books and studying aether.

 

As far as RPing the actual acts. I have done both ERP as well as fade to black and I am comfortable with doing either. I play off what my partner is comfortable with really.

[U'roh Tia]

Oooh this is a good one!

 

Well right away on my stance in the matter of difference MRP and ERP. Gharen pretty much summed it up. Some people do it for story others for kicks. Really I feel neither side is wrong, just if you're gonna do ether of them and if they have erotic content they should be confined to private channels. 

 

So before he had popped the question to his romantic interest he had a confused look on sex. Being a Tia, one defeated by his Nunh as well had left Roh with the impression he was undesirable and as such didn't really bother himself with it. Content to just focus on his improvement of combat skills after leaving.

 

However he had noticed attraction to both males and females but again those feelings of feeling he was "Unattractive" kept him from moving on those urges. Often dismissing himself when interest is shown or just denying them. He didn't even have his first encounter till his romantic partner.

 

Since then though he has started to slowly overcome his stigma and dedicate himself to her.

 

On the view of others in sex, he doesn't really see it as his business or a subject to judge somebody on.

[Dat Oni]

Why is this my most popular topic?

[U'roh Tia]

The Controversial ones always are popular. Lotta points to discuss!