Discussion of "Polyamory: A Roleplaying Guide"

[FreelanceWizard]

All,

 

I've had to remove some additional text from this thread that wasn't constructive. (I realize this is heavier moderation than I normally do, but damn it, this is Christmas Eve, and we deserve a nice thread. ) Please stick to the topic at hand and assume good faith from your fellow members.

 

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[Jazz Egi]

I think the most interesting part of this dynamic is how prevalent it seems to be. My character is extremely conservative and lacking in self esteem. Both of these qualities make her a terrible candidate for a polyamorous relationship, but they appear to be the only type she comes across other than the occasional 'nunh who will do anyone, any time.'

 

It's become a long-term goal of hers to meet someone who is okay with a vanilla relationship despite initially not giving a damn about romance. So far it's not optimistic, as everyone seems to like her, but want her as an auxiliary to another lover.

[Naunet]

I think the most interesting part of this dynamic is how prevalent it seems to be.  My character is extremely conservative and lacking in self esteem.  Both of these qualities make her a terrible candidate for a polyamorous relationship, but they appear to be the only type she comes across other than the occasional 'nunh who will do anyone, any time.'  

 

It's become a long-term goal of hers to meet someone who is okay with a vanilla relationship despite initially not giving a damn about romance.  So far it's not optimistic, as everyone seems to like her, but want her as an auxiliary to another lover.

 

The seeming prevalence of minority-type characters may have something to do with how roleplayers are a minority in and of themselves, and frequently we belong to minority groups in real life. I can understand why it might be frustrating, though.

[ArmachiA]

Polyamory is somewhat common in the rp community but it's like SUPER common in FFXIV (I'm guessing because of how many players play Miqote and the Miqote backstory in general). Armi was even in a polyamorous relationship for a very short while (Though she had no idea that's what it was, she just did what her Miqote partner was comfortable with) but currently she is in a very happy monogamous relationship with a Hyur and was in a monogamous relationship with a Miqote for a few months before that. It exists!

[Edvyn]

I think the most interesting part of this dynamic is how prevalent it seems to be.  My character is extremely conservative and lacking in self esteem.  Both of these qualities make her a terrible candidate for a polyamorous relationship, but they appear to be the only type she comes across other than the occasional 'nunh who will do anyone, any time.'  

 

It's become a long-term goal of hers to meet someone who is okay with a vanilla relationship despite initially not giving a damn about romance.  So far it's not optimistic, as everyone seems to like her, but want her as an auxiliary to another lover.

 

The seeming prevalence of minority-type characters may have something to do with how roleplayers are a minority in and of themselves, and frequently we belong to minority groups in real life. I can understand why it might be frustrating, though.

that's kinda a weak correlation.

[Verad]

that's kinda a weak correlation.

 

Causation's a hard thing to come by when making broad statements about RP communities.

[Gone.]

that's kinda a weak correlation.

 

It really isn't... ? Society treats us poorly, thus our roleplay becomes an escape where these things no longer apply inside the circle.

 

If anything, it should be obvious.

[Jazz Egi]

Polyamory is somewhat common in the rp community but it's like SUPER common in FFXIV (I'm guessing because of how many players play Miqote and the Miqote backstory in general). Armi was even in a polyamorous relationship for a very short while (Though she had no idea that's what it was, she just did what her Miqote partner was comfortable with) but currently she is in a very happy monogamous relationship with a Hyur and was in a monogamous relationship with a Miqote for a few months before that. It exists!

 

I chalked it up to it being Ul'dah, where for the right price you can have as many men, women, chocobos, lalafells and sapient vegetables money can buy. A post calamity society probably cares less about stringent relationship practices as well. Life is cheap!

 

But its a relief to hear it does exist!

[Edvyn]

that's kinda a weak correlation.

 

It really isn't... ? Society treats us poorly, thus our roleplay becomes an escape where these things no longer apply inside the circle.

 

If anything, it should be obvious.

im not quite sure what youre talking about. society doesnt treat me particularly poorly for playing video games.

[Naunet]

that's kinda a weak correlation.

 

It really isn't... ? Society treats us poorly, thus our roleplay becomes an escape where these things no longer apply inside the circle.

 

If anything, it should be obvious.

im not quite sure what youre talking about. society doesnt treat me particularly poorly for playing video games.

 

Not talking about video game players. I spoke of LGBT, and other romantic and gender minorities.

[Edvyn]

that's kinda a weak correlation.

 

It really isn't... ? Society treats us poorly, thus our roleplay becomes an escape where these things no longer apply inside the circle.

 

If anything, it should be obvious.

im not quite sure what youre talking about. society doesnt treat me particularly poorly for playing video games.

 

Not talking about video game players. I spoke of LGBT, and other romantic and gender minorities.

what if im attracted to video games

[Naunet]

Then you are a strange person, but... more power to you, I suppose.

[Flashhelix]

what if videogames are attracted to you

[Edvyn]

what if videogames are attracted to you

i am in a consensual relationship with several video games

[Flashhelix]

what if videogames are attracted to you

i am in a consensual relationship with several video games

 

i don't condone multi-videogame relationships

[Edvyn]

what if videogames are attracted to you

i am in a consensual relationship with several video games

 

i don't condone multi-videogame relationships

dont you fucking oppress me the feelings i have for my video games are nothing but TRUE LOVE

[Flashhelix]

what if videogames are attracted to you

i am in a consensual relationship with several video games

 

i don't condone multi-videogame relationships

dont you fucking oppress me the feelings i have for my video games are nothing but TRUE LOVE

 

don't you talk down to me you poly-gaming degenerate

[Edvyn]

what if videogames are attracted to you

i am in a consensual relationship with several video games

 

i don't condone multi-videogame relationships

dont you fucking oppress me the feelings i have for my video games are nothing but TRUE LOVE

 

don't you talk down to me you poly-gaming degenerate

that's it clown you're going down to brown town

[Aldotsk]

This thread really derailed because of consistent trolling. Please lock this thread. The past two pages have not been going so well despite Freelance's warning.

 

I wanted to say/ask something about Polyamory in terms of relationships, but honestly many people's responses have answered my question anyways.

[OttoVann]

I was going to have Otto have two wives but one of them quit playing so now Im down to just one IC trophy wife now. Its fine and, at least in our RP, the marriages are not romantic at all and purely status / trophy things.

 

I dont know if I can do actual romance RP very well, it worked with Kerwin for a while and IC she let me keep a couple on the side but that was it. I dunno. Im a big fan of the OP though, shes legit.

[FreelanceWizard]

So, a couple of things.

 

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[Zetchryn]

All praise the admin hat!

 

Is it bad that I just picture him putting on some massive, oversized wizard hat that talks a la sorting hat that does admin stuff, then him taking it off?

[Edvyn]

All praise the admin hat!

 

Is it bad that I just picture him putting on some massive, oversized wizard hat that talks a la sorting hat that does admin stuff, then him taking it off?

 

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[Maril]

I think it's a very nice guide, it's good to see someone have the courage to actually post something like that as well (I would chicken out. Bok bok!) 

My keeper male has been involved in a polyamorous relationship before, and generally speaking he loves a lot of people in his life - He's a bit outside the cultural norm, largely due to lack of exposure to keepers when growing up - so he casts his love on both genders and has very little interest in getting ladies pregnant, which he gets looked down upon for by a lot of people in his life. Maybe it'll change someday So far I think it's been very interesting to play things from that view, and I'm really happy that one can - in some other game's RP communities such would have been frowned upon. So it speaks volumes of how mature/understanding/accepting our community can be.

[Delilah Scythewood]

To all,

 

I've gone and read through many of the posts though am on a phone and thus am limited to all i can do since i am with the boyfriend. I would like to both thank and.apologize to the admins for all the thread monitoring. I havent had access to internet to see how this had turned out until just now.

 

This was not meant to bring up a hotblooded debate on miqo'te and polyamory though its an interesting topic in and of itself. Please limit any further discussions and let this thread be what it was intended to be: a guide. Any further wanting for discussion either send me a PM or make a separate thread for it please and thank you and i will make a more indepth post once i get to a computer.

 

With holiday love,

Lili