Faye

[Server]: Balmung [Housing]: Shroudrose Teahouse [Ward]: Lavender Beds, Ward 5 [Plot]: Plot 58 [Description]: Teahouse and tavern, open as an RP venue anytime and may be rented for events! Teatime event 1st and 3rd Monday of each month!

Assuming it's not an S/O, Faye's probably gonna smack someone or dish out some sass. Or maybe smile politely but secretly resent and plot against that person for eternity. :'D pls no touchy

Just my speculation and two cents here... Nerdy communities are often a gathering place for people who are oppressed or otherwise don't fit in IRL. RP communities are even nerdier communities within an already nerdy community. Naturally, it's no surprise LGBT+ people and themes will have a heavy presence... along with men who fetishize lesbians and therefore play female/futa characters rather than male characters, and girls who consider themselves "fujioshi," or women who just want to hide away on (often gay) male characters to avoid harassment from men that would come if they were to play female characters or hint at their RL gender. The more... socially stereotypical men tend to think RP romance, RP in general, or even video games in general (or at least ones that don't involve sports or shooting) are girly or weird or too nerdy, so you won't as often find them RPing male characters and trying to woo female characters, and when you do they sadly tend to be creepers. And as Teadrinker mentioned, there are a lot of people who may be gay/straight IRL but opt to play pan/bi characters to keep RP options and opportunities more open, and straight people often don't advertise their orientation as much as LGB people. IRL, heterosexuality is assumed to be the "norm," so there's no need to broadcast it, whereas LGB people have to find a way to signal to and attract other LGB people. Fittingly or not, the same culture gets applied to MMO's and RP and how people behave there. Straight people/characters just... kinda tend to blend in. There are probably more around than it seems. So what's so repulsive about heterosexual men? Nothing, really. Aside from the rare escaped tumblr radfem or hardcore SJW, or kinda squicky yaoi/yuri fans, most people aren't going to find heterosexual romance "repulsive." I'd imagine the only reason people are brushing off your concerns are either because they don't see the issue as a "problem" that needs fixed (less sexual harassment for female players/players of female characters to deal with, more LGB representation and normalization, etc.), or it's not something that they believe is happening to begin with. I guess I can't speak for anyone else, and things may be different in smaller/other RP communities, but I've had no shortage of straight/bisexual male characters hitting on my female characters on Balmung, or even their players unfortunately hitting on me IRL. =/ So I can't say I've experienced this as a problem. I'm fortunate to have found an RP partner who plays many straight men, and I feel like I've been beating other male characters away from my characters with sticks. I think you would have better luck in a larger RP community. Regardless, though I understand the frustrations and disappointment of not having romance and/or sex to RP, there is plenty of other fun RP to be had, and I'm sure the romance will eventually fall into place along the way. If you're willing to make the change, I'd recommend checking out the RP on Mateus, or on Balmung when it opens in the future. If you're up for out of game and cross server RP, there's no shortage of people looking for FFXIV related RP on tumblr and Discord, or even potentially here on the forums.

Welcome back, it's great to see so many people returning to Balmung!

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Just a "teahouse with a dark side," so it seems I've nothing to offer, unfortunately! Lydia's FC are good folks, though! Good luck, and I hope you are all able to find somewhere to call home!

Unsure what their recruitment and such is like, but Fool's Covenant is pretty large. I dunno what other sizable RP FC's there are at the moment; most prefer to keep things smaller for easy management and the ability to focus more on individual stories.

As everyone has said, it's subjective. For me, lore-bending is stuff we have not necessarily seen before in canon, but isn't impossible going off the limitations and examples we have been given even if it may be far-fetched. Lore-breaking is something that goes directly against established lore or has nothing at all in the lore hinting toward its possibility. Neither is inherently bad nor good, just depends on your preferences and is often a case-by-case basis of what exactly the person is trying to do with their character. In the example you gave, though, I don't think the lore support is what matters. Someone shouldn't be stealing the spotlight all the time, whether it's with lore-supported abilities or not. Rather than telling the person they're breaking lore (something usually more touchy and that might involve them rewriting parts of their character should they choose to fix it, which could lend to some reluctance), I'd recommend asking them to step back and allow others' characters the chance to shine. That, or avoid RPing with them, or address it with your FC leader/DM/etc. if you two are sharing some sort of group like that.

Welcome to the role-play community! You can RP at any level, but I recommend trying to get to at least level 15 ASAP so you can travel freely around ARR's major cities!