It's not just Lalafell that have this issue. It took me months to get involved with any Rp and I have over 20 years experience. I had to reach out to numerous people OOC on here, in game and discord before I finally found some people who were accepting and not totally inclusive with their Rp.
I had the same experience on Balmung when I played during HW peak. I tried several characters thinking it was something I has done wrong. Turns out the Rp "community" isn't so much a community as it is a whole bunch of tiny factions that tend to keep to themselves. Personal experience, of course.
That said I'm quite happy with the Rp I have now. Keep looking, talk to people in tells and DMs. There's a place for your Lalafell.