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    Balmung still a good server for european RP'ers?

    As far as I'm aware there are 3 or so active and big EU Heavy RP FC's swirling about at the moment on Balmung and several smaller ones. It seems to be doing well from my vantage point.
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    Social anxiety, how do YOU deal with it?

    Something that always helped me was remembering that this community is a lot bigger than you think it might be. No one really cares in the long run if you make that typo or cast a spell while waiting for a post or commit some other sort of faux pas. People are usually so wrapped up in what they are doing they can't pay attention anyway, especially at large events. Scroll and avatar congestion can get so bad in some areas you'd be lucky to get a post seen when you want it to be seen let alone have someone remember "Oh, that's the character that did X." Big events are always 10x more fun with friends anyway, poke someone you know or an FC member and get their character to join yours or use the events as platforms to meet other new people if you respond to LF RPs. If you're on Balmung I will totally wing(wo)man with your character sometime if you want. o/ Messaging people out of the blue gets easier the more you do it. You even start to develop a bit of a habit of it. I was nervous as hell the first time I did it and now years down the road it's just part of the game. Create a easily referenceable profile and link it: "Hey, I saw your post! I think you character might get along with/be a good enemy of/insert hook here for mine! Here is their profile and my Discord. Talk soon hopefully!" Ya there ya go I just blind messaged you. The worst that can happen is someone just doesn't reply or you two don't click and if you don't that's fine. Once you do this over and over and watch other people you begin to realize...Hey. Everyone has this anxiety to some degree. No one wants to be rejected, people get squeamish about putting themselves and their character concepts out there. But by the time I realized that I was already a veteran at the blind response to LF-RPs and starting off posts and DMing events etc. In the end, the people who actually DO end up being the ones who are doing it right. No one will ever say "Wow, you responded to my LF RP weird." or "Gee, that was a nerdy way to start a post." Going on 5 years RPing in FF now and in all my time being proactive I've never seen it and that is the very thing I think people get nervous about. Something something have to fear is fear itself etc. You can do it!
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    Spectacular.
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    No Love For Male Characters?

    I think everyone has felt frustration for one reason or another when searching for RP contacts. Try making a LF RP or a character wiki here on the site. Describe what your character is about and their interests and such. Providing hooks can also be a great way to get people involved. Make sure you note things like how you like to play and interpret lore and whatnot. When people know a little bit about the character and see how it may or may not fit with their own they can feel more comfortable messaging blind about rp and such things. When the datacenter visiting opens up it will help tons too because then you'll be able to attend Mateus as well as Balmung events to try and make contacts. I'd be willing to set up a friendly RP once the visiting is live, just send me a PM when the patch rolls around.
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    Balmung - How to find a FC?

    Additionally, you can make a post about your character in the Making Connections section on these Forums. Sometimes the best FC experiences you can have is just through making organic RP connections. Browse the RP calendar linked above and check out the events. A lot have FC's attached that you might be interested in.
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    Final Fantasy XIV 5.0: Shadowbringers

    I've only ever really noticed a skill cutoff when I want to proceed with Savage content. If you want to take it seriously (Read: repping people if they simply can't perform) you're generally better off branching away from RPers. I know a handful that are fine with that kind of environment but most aren't. The loss of Gilg players in the PF will make a dent in this department. However, even taking this into account, Turns 1-3 are generally farmable in party finder at the end of patch cycles regardless. If you want to pursue Savage casually then you're still in a good spot. I can't say I expect to have any issues whatsoever with anything below that level and I don't think anyone else should either. Your normal Omega turns, 24 man content, maps etc should proceed apace.
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    Final Fantasy XIV 5.0: Shadowbringers

    Not yet afaik. A lot are assuming it's going to be a more fleshed out version of Doman Enclave donations. But it will basically take Ishgard from the crumbling Masonry everywhere to the glorious bastion it's supposed to be. I'm not biased. *cough* Tbh I'm hoping against hope that they'll add in 4.0 design as well in the sense that we'll get access to more of the city. Ishgard was originally created with the PS3 limitations intact. I'm hoping this will lift that and we'll get mooooore.
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    Final Fantasy XIV 5.0: Shadowbringers

    You know. The WoL is a DRK now and they announced rebuilding Ishgard. Maybe they'll sneak in more Ishgard as part of the xpac like they snuck in with Hingashi. .....Look, I can dream, okay? ;_;
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    Multiple Jobs/Classes? Public opinions wanted!

    When it comes to these kinds of things I think falling back to the storytelling is always how it should be done. This goes for pretty much anything. Classes, Jobs, disabilities, professions. Basically anything you can think of. What is the narrative reason for the specific things you're adding to your character? If you can't think of one and how it adds to your story then it's probably just cumbersome and you can drop it. Tacking a lot of flair onto a character doesn't make them interesting to a reader and this is a pitfall I think a lot of writers and RPers succumb to. On the other side of this coin, it's always very rewarding when you can think of ways to weave new things into your story and how they affect your character, their emotional state and why this new addition is necessary now.
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    Is my story concept lore-friendly?

    Random folk you meet who are really hard up about lore are not going to RP with Miqo'te Ishgardian nobility no matter how many hours your pour into it. It's just their choice. It's best to find those you already know who are okay with more bendy concepts and go from there. If you're trying to make those contacts then be as up front with what you're trying to create as possible so everyone is on the same lore page when you start RPing together. In short, create what you like and be honest and open about it. Those who are into it will RP with you. Those that aren't generally politely abstain. Additionally, I'd sit tight for about a month and wait for the new lorebook. I suspect we'll get a nice big exposition dump involving Ishgard and the effects of the House of Lords and Commons and socioeconomic state of Ishgard and any demographic changes.
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    Very new to roleplaying in this game - Weird situation

    That's...odd. Honestly, I'd let it roll off your back. It could be a million things causing this to the point where it's hardly worth guessing at. To be frank, it's not you. If someone really wants to RP with you they'll put forth the effort and when they don't just simply move along, find new contacts. It's natural to be a little dismayed but it passes.
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    Viera - Yey, Nay?

    Beast Tribe was my next thought as well for them honestly. Or making cameo appearances in Dalmascan related content as denizens of the area like the Bangaa are in the Ivalice 24 man questline.
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    No Love for Straight Women

    Having a passive character doesn't necessarily mean you have to be so OOCly. You can have a character who is more reserved and just be firing off OOC attempts at communication left and right. Once you and someone else decide to try RPing, this is where a good plot hook comes in. If you both decide "Yeah, they can meet for a drink." and your reserved character is too busy not realizing what is going on or is playing coy then...Welp. In my experience, if you use a boring hook you have a much higher chance of getting boring RP that lacks longevity and you're right back into the 'Looking for Contacts' bin. Look for similarities in the characters. Are they both adventurers? Scholars? Dungeon delvers? Bountry hunters? Maybe they both really hate the void and meet hunting the same void creature. Form a plot around it. Have enemies, do some combat. GO OUTSIDE. Have your characters put some boots on, run around in the woods, get dirty. A lot of the best relationships develop out of conflict, don't shy away from that either.
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    No Love for Straight Women

    If a player is 'offended' that your character won't hook up with theirs, for whatever reason, then eject. Immediately. As with pretty much any rp scenario, if players start treating you awkwardly or badly OOCly after your characters make choices that might not have been what their character wanted then just bounce out cause that's big a red flag. It's not clear from your description if that was occurring here but the course is pretty clear when that kind of thing happens. You're not doing anything wrong by recounting your experience. Orientation really shouldn't matter that much in general RP. It sounds like you were just in an environment with folk who really prioritized the romantic and erotic side of things, regardless of orientation, and you needed to find a better fitting group anyway.
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    No Love for Straight Women

    There's a few things I've noticed. A lot of people choose to play bisexual/pansexual characters because, and I've asked because I was curious, it keeps RP options open. A lot of folk tend to prioritize actually having the RP available vs the RP being of a specific flavor. Why narrow half the RP pool? So they don't. Straight characters also tend to not "advertise" their sexuality as hard for whatever reason. With bisexual or gay characters you tend to see a lot more of the gender signs in the notes indicating what they like and don't like and not so much with straight characters. This might unintentionally make you feel like you have the only straight character in the room when that probably isn't the case though you might be a minority. I've gotta be honest and also say finding a partner for my hetero characters has always been difficult, especially when starting from scratch. Also, in my experience, a lot of RPers tend to be OOCly female and they gravitate towards making straight female and gay male characters. Males that do play don't always roll male avatars and end up making female ones, resulting in the pool of characters we have. Here again, my personal observations, not blanketing this as the norm. I've heard the players of straight male characters complain of this so you're not alone but even then I don't know too many who play these characters yet they often seem frustrated they can't seem to find any hetero females around. I noticed you're on Brynhildr as well. The RP climate over there could be totally different than it is on Balmung/Mateus so take my observations with a grain of salt. The following is pretty solid advice though. Don't be afraid to just message people. Everyone's RP tags usually say something akin to "Walkups/Tells Welcome" so make use of it. Start conversations, discuss your characters. Browse RPC wikis and tumblrs. Link your profile. Get out there and meet as many characters as possible. It's a lot of work and takes a lot of time but meeting contacts is always like that. Also bear in mind that even if you meet characters that are compatible with yours orientation-wise it doesn't mean they will be in the personality, rp or time department. You should definitely have enough other things going on with your character to keep you in the game despite not being in a relationship.
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