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I'm not fond of the idea either. I agree with Bryn's thoughts - more animations/props are all we need really, and they're much easier to implement and available to everyone.

Welcome! Nice to see a fellow Brit here

Hello! If I may recommend l'Cie as well - we have a post up here on the forums. We're raiders and enjoy helping people catch up, so have your PvE needs sorted! I'm not involved in the RP side yet, but from my understanding it's quite light/medium at the moment. If you'd like to come along and give us a trial feel free! Just send a /tell to Aris Frey or one of the leaders and we'll send along an invite.

These are great - I adore your style Look forward to seeing more of your work!

I always get the impression Steel Wolf is just very cool, chilled, & an excellent cook. Also, if you've posted in the food/recipe thread, then I will assosiate you with whatever you posted.

I made two phone calls today! Two! I'm diagnosed with social phobia, so this is a huge step forward! I'm so happy! It's great seeing everyone's happy stories. It's much easier to get wrapped up in the negative stuff, and we must remember to acknowledge positive things too - no matter how small they may be. ♥

I've never been deeply hurt in the game, as I don't know anyone very well enough to hurt me to such an extent - but I've been hurt by friends who I met over the internet which is the same thing. To be honest, to me it's just the same as being hurt by friends in person, except on the net it's easier to block them and never see them again, whereas that's a little more difficult in person depending on social circles. But I digress. I think it's important to get some space from the situation first of all, especially if emotions are raging. It's no good making a decision or trying to talk to someone when you or they are like that because if people get angry or upset they often can't think rationally, or in an argument pride can get in the way over logic. After that, I guess I usually approach them and talk it out. Communication is important, especially if it's a friend. Try and understand the situation and the other person's point of view. It's difficult to say much further because it depends on the situation. But I'm trying to remember there's no point regretting anything, because you can't change the past, but you can change the future. There is always something to learn from it - so learn and move on, because I can always change myself for the better. And accept their apology, but if they're a repeat offender consider taking a step away because it's not worth putting up with someone who makes you feel hurt on a regular basis.

A little irrelevant but, thanks to all the encouraging replies & advice in this thread, I bit the bullet and joined in with some random folk roleplaying. They didn't seem to mind and it was super fun. I'll stick to similar light encounters for now while I build my confidence, and am very excited for whatever the RPing future may bring.

Happy Easter

I'd be happy to help out too, should have added that. I've little experience with RP but.. will just throw myself in the deep end and hope for the best. & With your permission I'll make an interest check thread to gauge EU players interest on here.

If in a happy mood, I subconsciously sing quite often about random things. My mum might join in and bounce off of it. Upon realising what we're doing, we stop and decide that we spend too much time together. Not singing like Von Trapp Family singing, very bad singing about things like "I'm going to make a cup of teaaaaaaa" "putting the tea bag in" "wooaahh the teeeaaa baggg"

Hello! I moved over from Cerberus for the roleplay scene on Balmung. From my understanding RP on Gilgamesh is a little more private, but there are a couple of weekly events here, as well as rarer occassions like a Royal Ball coming up, a few different bar nights hosting in various private houses, a mixture. Not often enough, but sometimes I come across random RP'ers around the world, which is really nice. Mostly it's held in Ul'Dah at the Quicksand, where people will be IC usually waiting for walk-up RP. I joined in yesterday with some strangers and they didnt mind at all. Most are welcoming and encouraging. There are unfriendly people but you'll find that on all worlds I guess. I would stay, I'm very happy here. I don't know if you're interested, but the PvE scene is active too. The PF usually has a static hunting for more members, hunt parties, or general stuff. The only negatives I can think of are that it's much more difficult for EU players, and pretty much all houses are taken, the small ones that were released were gone in a matter of days. It's definitely a very active server. There are several RP FCs - some are listed here, but HPC is only a small chunk of RP'ers on Balmung and there are quite a few more. For that reason as well, I agree making an alt and visiting would be your best bet! I did that before moving over as well.

Hi I wondered if you allow active alts to apply? Sorry if the question is answered elsewhere, I must have missed it.

Yeah, sadly. Just a one off, definitely not a regular thing, I know most wouldn't be happy if that happened. I'll spread the word and see how much interest there is - I'm sure I'm not the only one who'd like to come along. Thank you for considering, it isn't a small ask.

Would you consider one week hosting the Grindstone earlier so EU players could come along? Not a regular thing, just a EU-friendly special.

My characters would certainly be interested. Might be good around 3.0 as well, with plenty of new Au Ra wondering what Eorzea is all about.

Welcome! Lulu sounds like an intruiging character. Will hopefully see you around!

It's open now. 12:35 GMT.

I don't know if there'd be any interest in this, but I wonder if some sort of project would help where more comfortable/experienced volunteer roleplayers are matched up with new, shy, or people finding it difficult to find roleplay. Just a one off time, not a regular thing unless it was a huge success. It isn't a mentoring scheme or anything like that, just a way to find a RP partner. The people matched can then decide the details of their characters meeting. If they were to go to an event and introduce them to a bigger circle that would certainly be good but not neccessary. If it's someone very new to roleplaying it would be insightful for them I'm sure, but I suppose we don't get many completely new people joining so.. perhaps not the best idea. I still consider myself new since I haven't properly got around to roleplaying with anyone yet and just talk about it lol. Any thoughts, or probably a disaster? Hey, for whatever reason, this thread has helped me come out of my lurker status a bit so that's nice, thanks guys.

Sadly Erik's ball is coming up soon, but it's wonderful to see someone else planning a public event - your ideas sound interesting, and I imagine lots would be interested in whatever you come up with.

Once this thread has gotten quieter, if Ilwe'ran's points could be made to a separate thread that would be really neat, because they've provided some great tips for new roleplayers and ideas for roleplay starters. I know I've been taking notes. I'm sure there are some other posts as well, will find them in amongst all the discussion.

Approach them slowly. Toss some bait out. Don't make any sudden movements. You'll scare them away. Um, well. As others have said, just being friendly and approachable goes a long way. Being asked a question or having a way into the conversation helps me a lot personally, because if someone talks to me I literally freeze like an animal and my mind goes blank. If people go that extra mile as Berrod and Domri are doing, by reaching out more than just a 'hello', well that's completely awesome, because it helps break the ice completely. In Berrod's case, there is no escape. Perfect. But that is going the extra step, which I do not expect people to do because it's my problem, not theirs. To be honest though my shyness has developed into something a bit more severe, so I might be way off the mark, but I hope it helps a bit any way.

Edit: Oops. Ignore this, the below post is much more encouraging.

Thanks everyone for replying! This all feels very positive. I'll be PMing you all over the weekend, but I just thought I'd post this here as well so you know your replies haven't gone unnoticed.

Oh man that is a loooooong time. As allgivenover mentioned, I really recommend shouting for help for any 'older' trials like that. Now everyone is over-geared it only takes 5 minutes, so there are many kind strangers willing to help, especially if you can offer the solidery bonus (but often they'll just help any way). I've done it a few times when seeking a tank for Hydra/Chimera and someone has always come along. I can't get on for another hour but send a /tell, or I'll send a message, if you still need a healer/DPS for it, or anything else. Edit: I mixed up names oops. Edit 2: I also forgot to answer your question. ._. Cape Westwind for me. I think it was around 2 & a half hours? PvP queues are always awful, which is disappointing 'cause I really like those lv 40 gears. :K