RP Confession Thread

[Caspar]

I'm a confident writer, but I simply don't feel I'm very good writing erotica. That's probably why I avoid it. I can't really write in a way that I feel is sufficiently romantic or sensual. I don't hate the players who do it, though I do judge the lalachasers internally...

[Dravus]

I'm a sucker for passion and romance though I only ever ERP with those I've come to know and trust not to get all weird and possessive over my character. I don't have much respect for role-players who throw character development/consistency out the window whenever they feel like getting their rocks off. Since then it isn't 'ERP' at all - it's just cyber sex. 

 

I'm also pretty guarded when it comes to ERP because I've had some pretty nasty encounters with members of FFXIV's LGBT community who lack boundaries, common decency or just cease role-playing with me altogether when they realise they're not going to get into my character's pants since he's already taken.

[Volk]

I confess that for the passed , i don't know , 3 months or more I have been sort of avoiding community rp . I get the impression that people think that I am stupid/unintelligent . I spend the majority of my life speaking a language other than english and im sorry , but my typing will falter sometimes .

 

I confess that carelessness about me as a person in RP or in the community easily hurts my feelings and that people should think before they act or speak .

 

I confess that it irritates me to no end when someone tells me I /cannot/ do something or must justify myself to them . To those who know me or have RPed with me , you know there is nothing outlandish about my character . If nothing else , she is surprisingly mediocre . Even still , people in certain circles insist on being "experts" and basically branding people who deviate from the general consensus to be poor RPers .

 

I confess that I hold grudges for particularly nasty attitudes expressed toward me . Wondering why we don't speak ? Think if you did something rude to me and apologise and we will be fine again .

 

kk ilu bye

[Arthur]

• I'm a paragraph roleplayer, and a lot of people seem to really hate that? it's something that I've taken with me since my origins in forum RP, and I really just prefer it. (it's like collaborating on writing a book in live time! how cool is that?? o: ) I've been working hard to improve my reply speed, though when it comes to things like IC dungeon runs, I usually just cut everything down to dialogue + brief emotes, which is a challenge for me.
  

 

• I'm not really a fan of trying to roleplay in settings with tons of people (events mostly). part of it is tied to the above statement, but I don't know. it's easy to drown in text and lose what you were last reading + it just feels a lot more improvisational a lot of the time? while I don't plan RP down to the very last detail beforehand, it's still nice to be able to just RP without having to justify your character being there. (that, and I think I just prefer roleplaying in smaller groups. it feels like there's less pressure.)
  

 

• I'm super nervous around other roleplayers because of how clique-y it can all get. I've seen a lot of people talking shit about one another under thinly veiled passive aggression, people being super judgmental, and just a lot of negativity in general. I'm not saying you should RP with people you don't want to, or whose styles you don't mesh with, but good googly moogly, there is a lot of cattiness happening. so long as no one is getting hurt, let people do whatever they feel like. on the same token though, try to be considerate of others! (this means no mature [sexual, violent, disturbing, etc] RP on public channels, please. please. and, you know, the obvious - if there's anything questionable you want to bring up in RP, be respectful and ask your RP partner(s) if they're okay with it first!)
  

 

we're all partaking in pretendy funtimes in a video game. we need to all be excellent to each other!!

[Kaiz]

5: I ERP and support ERPers. I don't get why it bothers other RPers so much. It's all just different kinds of fantasy.

 

1) So long as it is safe, consensual and with a clear separation between IC and OOC then I doubt many people have a problem with it. The people who do have an issue with it aren't entirely wrong, though. It's not something to be proud of and wear as a badge of honour. If people want to ERP? Cool. Go ahead! Just be subtle and keep it behind closed doors.

 

2) More people need to realise that technically they shouldn't be doing it at all. At least not in public chat channels. Doing so is liable to get someone banned. 

 

3) On a side note, after talking with a few 'outsiders' looking into the role-playing community they've told me that it isn't so much the fact that role-players engage in ERP that bothers them - it's the fact that a lot of themes explored within ERP are, well, pretty creepy.

 

4) There's some pretty good reasons as to why there's a stigma attached to ERP. Putting aside the poor quality of a lot of the 'hook up ERP' that goes on within the Quicksand...there's the fact that a lot of ERP is a direct vehicle for people to get off on some rather bizarre fetishes or just manipulate those perceived as vulnerable.

 

So it's not as simple as 'omg how cud any1 ever h8 erp, i can do wat i want'.

 

Dunno how to multi-quote in this forum, so I numbered the paragraphs.

 

1) It's not something to be proud of? Why not? Are people not supposed to be proud of things they enjoy? Should normal RPers not be proud to be RPers? And shouldn't all RP be safe, consensual, and have clear IC and OOC separations? 

 

2) Sure. Aside from accidental mistells, however, I find it's extremely rare that people try to ERP publically. That said, it's true that the game is not an 'adult' environment, and anyone engaging in ERP should be keeping that in mind. 

 

3) I could write volumes on the degenerative psychology behind what sorts of sexual concepts are permissible, but this isn't really the environment for it. All else aside, however, this basically boils down to saying "It's outside my comfort zone, so it's bad.", which is a perfectly normal stance to have, but it's still no reason why people who are comfortable with it should be made to feel guilty about it.

 

4) There are a lot of reasons, yes, but very few good reasons. Poor quality RP is something that is not exclusive to erotica. Some players are just bad RPers in general, whether ERP or regular RP. Also, are you implying that regular RP isn't a 'direct vehicle' for some kind of fantasy? If not, how is ERP any different, aside from just catering to different desires?

 

 

As for the LGBT community, I can't comment on that, as it's outside my area of experience. If it's a small community, I can certainly understand if a few individuals have made it problematic, but generally I wouldn't condemn an entire community for the actions of a few individuals.

[Edda]

1) I am severely under-confident about my RP and legitimately believe I am bad at it. Though I have never RPed in my life before playing this game, I am the type that will consign myself to ever be a failure at something if I am unable to do it correctly the first time.

 

2) I am highly uncomfortable asking people to RP most of the time, especially if they have a large network of friends. As someone who is generally not sought out by others for RP, I often wonder if those who agree when I ask are merely humoring me, or doing so begrudgingly. Knowing that RPers tend to be a more... passive bunch, I really do worry that sometimes I am THAT asshole. I enjoy roleplay enough that I have not ceased to ask people for it, but the worry that I am being a real pain in the ass, and not taken at all seriously, is always there.

 

3) I will not interrupt people who are conversing outside of the game, and I am extremely unlikely to do it in roleplay either. I feel it is extremely rude. Oddly, I do not feel this way when anyone other than myself does so.

 

4) Poor English and grammar does not bother me in the slightest, so long as a visible effort is being made. I find poor attitudes toward one's English particularly distasteful - consistently low-effort, one sentence RPers notwithstanding. Surely if you posses such a mastery of the language, you should be able to decipher the meaning behind the words of one who is ESL.

 

5) While I like to keep as close to the lore as I can get, I will roleplay with anyone, regardless of their character concept, at least once. Beggars cannot be choosers.

[Seriphyn]

2) I am highly uncomfortable asking people to RP most of the time, especially if they have a large network of friends. As someone who is generally not sought out by others for RP, I often wonder if those who agree when I ask are merely humoring me, or doing so begrudgingly. Knowing that RPers tend to be a more... passive bunch, I really do worry that sometimes I am THAT asshole. I enjoy roleplay enough that I have not ceased to ask people for it, but the worry that I am being a real pain in the ass, and not taken at all seriously, is always there.

 

Not uncomfortable here, but the rest applies. Sympathy RP noooo.

[Aaron]

Confession - When I mess up in a RP event no matter how or why, I suddenly feel like everyone is giving me that "Wtf you dumbass idiot" look behind their screen. I know very well that's 9/10 not the case but I still feel that way and I scramble to try to redeem myself ;_;

[Otte]

1. I am terrified of RPing my favourite characters outside my group of friends, due to fear of being judged and getting a bad reputation inside the community.

 

2. I worry constantly about being 'boring' in RP, since I feel I'm really bad at creating interesting storylines, and that my characters aren't interesting enough to RP with.

 

3. There's many people I want to RP with, but not dare to ask because of points 1 and 2.

[Kai Motokawa]

1: I am terrified of getting to RP again after my horrible experience with it a few years back.

 

2: I bring myself down each time I come up with a character Idea.

[Kaiz]

1: I am terrified of getting to RP again after my horrible experience with it a few years back.

 

2: I bring myself down each time I come up with a character Idea.

 

Now I'm super-curious...

[Dis]

1) I completely changed my main character's public storyline because while I feel it's plausible, so many people cringe at her original character concept, and I got tired of being excluded from RP because of what I referred to her as.

 

2) I often feel as if my RP isn't interesting enough to really gain anyone's attention, and get, not so much shy, but nervous in large open RP settings.  Because of this, I rarely approach people in places like the Quicksand, or even during open RP events.

3) I like high fantasy, and the extravagant, so I'm leery to approach anyone I see from the RPC for role-play, because I feel like I don't play to the ordinary life aspect of my character enough to be interesting for any kind of long-term RP. 

 

In hindsight, I realize that some of those statements could be accusatory or an attempt to be inflammatory towards the RPC and its community, and I wanted to tack on a disclaimer here, because that was not my intention. 

[Virella]

Oh. How could I forget this.

 

People roleplaying as major NPCs. The known main Scoins, Heavenswards knights, Iceheart ect. Canon characters basically.

 

I really find it disrespectful to fuck about with SE own creations :<

 

Not afraid to admit I will avoid interacting with these type of people.

[Aoi Fukiku]

More Confessions!

 

1) I don't like to rp with people who have multiple characters. Especially if they are looking to try and get some active rp with my own. If people want to have multiple characters to jump to that is fine with me but when you are trying to become part of my character's own story and you are jumping between characters so much that nothing gets done but once a month it becomes a hassle. That and most of the people I have run in to with multiple characters just want to hook up and makes it feel like they just want to ERP with as many people as possible. (Not always true of course)

 

2) While I do RP with a lot of people from different timezones I actually hate it but I don't try and limit my character to such. Being able to only rp with someone one day out of the week because that is the only time our times work together is annoying and feels as if there is nothing going on. I will not stop my character from possibly developing feelings or perhaps hatred for someone because of the limited amount of interaction but oocly I just groan and hope they don't do anything to try and swoon her.

 

3) I hate people and characters who are completely anime. This is mostly Doman characters who are using 'sama' 'chan' 'senpai' and other terms during IC rp.

 

4) If you are an ass oocly, I will do my best to avoid you in rp.

[Blue]

More Confessions!

 

3) I hate people and characters who are completely anime. This is mostly Doman characters who are using 'sama' 'chan' 'senpai' and other terms during IC rp.

 

 

*Quotes with sentiment*

 

Japanglish is one of the worst curses of roleplay >_<; makes me cringe every tiiiiime..

[Rosekitten]

1.) My character is a bit temperamental and some say difficult to get along with. I'm 100% not.. I will talk to anyone and everyone given the chance and time to do so. I have so many people on my friends list I'd love to get around rp'ing with.

 

2.) I hate being a bother.. for everyone on my friends list that we've talked about rp'ing at some point.. Come to me! I really hate asking if someone is busy or would like to rp. It really is a weakness of mine.. :<

 

3.) I love rp but I avoid it a lot due to real life (mainly when my kids are up). It is not that I cannot rp while my kids are up.. just I would sooner go hide in a corner then tell someone I have to afk for a moment to change a diaper or to give the little ones a snack or something. I hate making people wait (even if everyone I've ever rp'ed with swears its fine)!

 

4.) I tend to consider myself boring compared to most. Heck my character I rp is a smithy by trade. Now I enjoy her to bits but I don't have any tales of dragon slaying or capturing a bandit leader to spin at a fire either hehe.

[Volk]

** now that i have finished my shit posting about what bothers me in RP, I will say a few general ones:

 

• I would like to get into some of the bigger plots but I fear that I am operating on a level below the people who organize the big stories and get scared off.
  
• I really want to post IC character stories on forums, but I'm afraid no one would read it so I don't. This is a stupid thing, I know !
  
• I am soft at heart for romance - but my character is weird and scares the boys away :cry: WHERE ARE YOU ASTRONAUT MIKE DEXTER (Elezen version)
  
  

[mongi291]

I had an idea to play a Padjal ICly without it being lore-breaking (lore-bending at most) but I'm too afraid to even try sharing it with others.

[Caspar]

I used to be that nag who was all like "C'mon, come back to the RP. It'll be fun, I promise..." to all those inactive players on my forum. Maybe I felt responsible for the community, but really I just hated seeing funny and interesting writers twiddle their thumbs or have a life. It takes conscious effort for me not to bother those who don't come on as often as I'd like, but I don't want to be selfish.

 

I once made an Exalted campaign self-destruct because I refused to make my character play nice with the other PCs, who with the exception of my best friend's character had philosophies diametrically conflicting with his. I apologized profusely for what an asshat he was being in OOC, but that wasn't enough and I feel I still didn't do enough. "Playing the character" isn't worth it when it makes everyone else unhappy, and I could have done more to communicate with the other players ahead of time to make sure my concept meshed well with theirs.

 

Yet on a certain level, I don't feel that guilty. I feel like conflict within the party makes sense in a heavy RP pen and paper system like that. Maybe I really *am* selfish!?

[Klynzahr]

2:00am and can't sleep ... clearly the solution is to haunt an empty forum.

 

Here are a few confessions.

 

1) I have a weakness for well written prose. While I am aware that it has minimal value in MMO RP, I still get giddily happy when I see someone turning words into art.

 

2) I am a natural paragraph RPer. Now I can adapt myself to work well at much quicker RP speeds, but if I happen to run across someone who indulges my paragraph addiction I will take complete advantage. Back in Wow, I once wrote an emote that was four paragraphs long and didn't contain a single word of dialog or internal thoughts. The entire response was composed of shifting expressions and gesture, described in extreme detail. I am both proud and ashamed of this feat.

 

3) I am extremely nervous about sending people /tells and even more nervous about asking people to RP in linkshells. I constantly worry that people will find me clingy, annoying, or rude, and the longer that I sit there thinking about it the worse it gets. After many failed starts, I have discovered that the only way for me to actually send a tell is to typeitoutsuperfastandhitenterwithoutthinkingtwice.

 

Unfortunately this has lead to the /tell and run phenomenon, which some of you may be familiar with.....

 

4) The /tell and run phenomenon: When Klynzahr logs onto the game and instantly fires off a /tell, containing some random question and really strange typos, to some poor other RPer, who is probably either afk or already RPing. Then she promptly looses her nerve and vanishes into a dungeon for the next hour, making it impossible for them to reply and ask her what "Goos EVening! :-d" was supposed to mean.

 

If you have been a victim of these, my apologies. I'm slooooowly getting better at it.  :blush:

[Zael Aders]

My name is Ludivine, and I'm an alco- oh, wait, wrong confession...

 

1. I'm horribly guilty of eventually turning my characters into house-bound non-combatants. I can start with the wildest of ideas and character backstories, but they all seem to end up as civilians who barely have any excitement in their lives. Which brings me onto 2...
   
2. I love excitement in my RP. Letting my characters lead a normal life where nothing sad or exciting happens dulls my RP experience. I know I'm the instrument of my own demise in this, but I'd love to find more RP that really shakes things up, maybe changes my characters for the better...or worse.
   
3. I love the idea of family RP, but I don't know anyone well enough OOCly to find someone willing to do it...I wasn't interested in tribe RP when the Au Ra were revealed, and might never be, but an IC sister or brother would be so great. Maybe I should just seek someone -else- looking for family RP, but the idea of committing that to someone who rarely plays the game or is just starting out and might end up with me in the same situation as 1. is... (Also Balmung being locked for alts...and the lv60 grind...)
   
4. I tab out a lot, no matter what I'm doing. When I post something, and am waiting for a reply, I browse the internet until they post. Maybe it's rude, but I don't know if staring at a screen while someone takes a few minutes to reply is accomplishing anything. That said, in group RP, where conversations are flying every which way, I have my attention on the game 100% so I make sure to never miss anything directed to my character.
   

[Miss Gaz]

My name is Ludivine, and I'm an alco- oh, wait, wrong confession...

1. I love the idea of family RP, but I don't know anyone well enough OOCly to find someone willing to do it...I wasn't interested in tribe RP when the Au Ra were revealed, and might never be, but an IC sister or brother would be so great. Maybe I should just seek someone -else- looking for family RP, but the idea of committing that to someone who rarely plays the game or is just starting out and might end up with me in the same situation as 1. is... (Also Balmung being locked for alts...and the lv60 grind...)
   
2. I tab out a lot, no matter what I'm doing. When I post something, and am waiting for a reply, I browse the internet until they post. Maybe it's rude, but I don't know if staring at a screen while someone takes a few minutes to reply is accomplishing anything. That said, in group RP, where conversations are flying every which way, I have my attention on the game 100% so I make sure to never miss anything directed to my character.
   

I Understand those two points I just recently started a family RP and I really do enjoy it. I have two monitors so I am notorious for just watching or reading on the other screen....

[Kurt S.]

Maybe it's just me but sometime or a lot I get the feeling I'm not really up to par with what the other guys expects and I'm just letting them down, so far down the depths I found oil...but that's beside the point. Like my character isn't what they need and probably just tolerates it because that's what's on hand.

 

And I slowly dig my grave...then I hit an oil well with Adele rolling in it but that's beside the point.

[banndsand]

I've got some social issues that have led to me avoiding forming bonds with others online, without even noticing I'm doing it. One of my hopes with RP is to overcome that, because of the highly social nature of the thing, but so far it hasn't really been working that well. If anyone thinks I'm ignoring them or have forgotten about them... it's not the case. Thankfully in FFXIV I have yet to straight up run away from people, which is at least an improvement.

 

Aside from that, my other confessions are:

• I am still pretty inexperienced with the finer do's and don't's of RP, so I often worry about the various pet peeves that people can have about it. This leads to a cycle of "Am I doing this wrong? Should I ask them? Would that be even more annoying? Should I just stick with what I'm comfortable doing?" and so on.
  

• I let my FFXIV sub lapse quite often, as I am a student, and thus have little time and money to put towards these kinds of luxuries. As a result, I'm sure I've made people think I'm not interested or invested in relations with them, but it's just that I'm really bad at juggling school and MMOs, and I have to put my student loans to use. D:
  

• I sometimes play characters who like to hit on people, but bad experiences with ERPers as well as my personal views on erotic content in general have led to my making those characters into a huge tease. Sorry.
  

• I am an alt-aholic. I can't stop. I know between that and my sparse playtime that makes it difficult to manage RP, but if I limit myself to one character I will get bored and stop playing altogether, which is probably worse? In any case, if people want to avoid me for that reason, it's perfectly fine. If it helps, I used to have even more characters.
  

EDIT: I also sometimes go on the forums while waiting for FFXIV client to open and I end up lurking all day instead of playing the game. x.x

[Oroban]

1. I tend to use a lot of big words. I'm very verbose and oftimes hit the text limit in the client. This is mostly a problem in large events, since it splits my posts and drowns out smaller posts. Which is part of the reason I avoid said events.

 

2. I avoid big RP events! I don't know why, I just feel skittish in crowds and unsure of whether or not I should post, despite wanting to.

 

3. I see RPers all the time I'd love to talk to, and even if they say they like walkups and /tells, I shy away instead because...well, I don't know! I just do. Oops.