Lets talk romance!

[Sierra Nazrin]

Alright, so here is a subject i see alot of but for my own curiosity. what type of romance do each of you enjoy? i know this is rather vague, but that is the entire point of this topic! RP or out of game, it matters not. if you're comfortable with sharing, feel free!

 

I'm quite a fan of story lines in which a character meets another and starts out as friends but some where along the lines one of the two starts feeling something for the other, further into the story however something tragic may happen or one of the two may get hurt. its at that point that the character admits their feelings to the other and the romantic portion of the story begins.

 

(Edited to be more in depth.)

[Miss Gaz]

Both in and out of game I like dates that are a little personal. Like a walk to a favorite spot for a picnic. Im a sucker for mushy.

[Jmaaira]

I like romance where there's a good balance in the personalities. Heartfelt and sincere romance with a dash of cuteness for flavor.

[Oli!]

In-game I don't care as long as it's natural.

 

Out of game I only take relationships where large amounts of hugging are permitted.

[Jerciex]

RP romance... hmm.. They have been mostly crushes on Jerciex, but for him romance is spending time with someone, alone/together. It doesn't matter where as long you can just be alone with this person and do things together. 

Talking, caressing and being close. Dinners, tea moments are just perfect way to spend time together ^^

 PRetty vanilla stuff :blush:

[Aaron]

My definition of romance is when me and a girl play a game together and beat the shit outta each other then proceed to gloat about the win. Or something along the lines of arguing with each other just for lolz and all that crazy stuff. I like the aggressively fun types mmmmm.

 

IC wise Aaron likes a independent girl. One that wont throw a fit if they see him talking to someone else with no anterior motives. And will keep him from being a lazy bum when he doesn't want to do anything productive.

[Blue]

The type that doesn't get you married within a year. <_

[V'aleera]

The best kind of date ends with both lovers covered in the blood of the unrighteous and corrupt.

[Virella]

The best kind of date ends with both lovers covered in the blood of the unrighteous and corrupt.

Sounds like a heck of an amazing date.

 

As for my own roleplay? Give them tension, arguments, drama. No one is perfect, so give me those clashes! But of course the bit of good old romance is never wrong

 

AND I HAVE HUGE THING FOR ROMANCES WHO ARENT MEANT TO BE. ELVES WITH HUMANS YES.

[TheLastCandle]

The best kind of date ends with both lovers covered in the blood of the unrighteous and corrupt.

Sounds like a heck of an amazing date.

 

As for my own roleplay? Give them tension, arguments, drama. No one is perfect, so give me those clashes! But of course the bit of good old romance is never wrong

 

AND I HAVE HUGE THING FOR ROMANCES WHO ARENT MEANT TO BE. ELVES WITH HUMANS YES.

 

Groooooss

[Rosekitten]

I'm pretty open to any type though I draw a few limits as far as how much detail wise.. I do have to agree with a comment above. Any that doesn't end up with being married in a year.  Though someone would have to put up with my character that long haha.

 

I do admit a ooc weakness that I have for the mushy stuff.. sadly my character is not as easily swooned into such things. >w<

 

Also picking at another comment posted above.. unusual romances or at least the uncommon (maybe in some cases doomed) .. yes please. ^^

[Rising]

IC Romances, hmm... I think the best ones are the ones where the two don't necessarily like each other to start with. Maybe they're rivals or even enemies. 

 

Perhaps they are allied for a cause but don't get along but then as the work together they slowly gain a grudging respect for each other and that slowly blossoms into a friendship. Even when that friendship happens and continues to grow, they either don't acknowledge it or resist where it's taking them.

 

Only at the end, when they finally admit that they are in love, do they realize the whole story has been a romance... and one like no other.

[FreelanceWizard]

I'm terrible in that I like IC romances that are complicated. A good chase, some witty banter, a selfish act, the work of an outside force, a messy fight, a tragic turn of events -- while I don't like a romance that's just whipping from one dramatic scene to another, I do like one where it's not all happy all the time. There needs to be some tension somewhere, since I'm a believer that characters show their true colors and grow when faced with adversity. The adversity doesn't have to be between the lovers, of course. Two bright lights holding close against the encroaching darkness works as well as two fiery personalities clashing with each other.

 

Beyond that, it needs to grow organically ICly, and I like it when there's cuteness and playfulness to balance out any bitterness.

 

As for L'yhta's type? Bards, primarily.

[Lydia Lightfoot]

Eh, I'm picky. The characters have to feel like they click, and I'll need to have some rapport and scheduling compatibility with the other player. Experience has taught me that a lot of people are flighty or musey and what delights them today will inexplicably bore them next week, so I'm not in a rush. If the other player seems to consistently enjoy RP with me and makes time to do it, and their character appears to be putting effort into the situation, then things might happen in a natural sort of timing.

 

But if their character invites mine for a date, and then it's obvious from the RP that the other player didn't put any thought into where they would go and what they would do, and then afterwards I don't see them around for a week... ehhh... Probably not really gonna happen.

 

And definitely no Carly Rae RP Romance:

 

"Hey, I just met youuu~

And this is craaazyyy~

But now we're married~

And here's a baby~"

 

No. No no no.

[Sierra Nazrin]

Eh, I'm picky. The characters have to feel like they click, and I'll need to have some rapport and scheduling compatibility with the other player. Experience has taught me that a lot of people are flighty or musey and what delights them today will inexplicably bore them next week, so I'm not in a rush. If the other player seems to consistently enjoy RP with me and makes time to do it, and their character appears to be putting effort into the situation, then things might happen in a natural sort of timing.

 

But if their character invites mine for a date, and then it's obvious from the RP that the other player didn't put any thought into where they would go and what they would do, and then afterwards I don't see them around for a week... ehhh... Probably not really gonna happen.

 

And definitely no Carly Rae RP Romance:

 

"Hey, I just met youuu~

And this is craaazyyy~

But now we're married~

And here's a baby~"

 

No. No no no.

That last part made me chuckle.

[Roen]

I am a sucker for romance. It increases my investment in any story if there is a possibility of a romantic attachment between characters. I will confess that I am a compulsive shipper when it comes to any stories I really enjoy.

 

That being said, I don't necessarily enjoy stories that are only and PURELY about the romance since that gets boring for me. I am not a fan of romance novels, for example.

 

And my love of romance doesn't always translate to my RP. Roen was without any kind of romantic attachment for almost a year. I was having plenty of fun RPing without it as it was. But the injection of romance into any story can add a wonderful dimension for both storytelling and character development, so when it did happen, it was fraught with plenty of tension and conflict, and for Roen, it eventually ended in a tragedy.

 

I like romances that are complicated. Chemistry has to be there between the characters, and the growth of the relationship has to believable, but for a romance to hold any interest for me, it has to have layers of complexity, whether it be differences in philosophy, personality, or circumstances... and if there are obstacles to be overcome. As others have already stated, characters AND relationships grow when they face and overcome adversities together.

 

But if Roen's story is an example of anything, it's that my love for romance does not always translate to happy endings... >__>

[Sylentmana]

I've only dated one person for a grand total of 2 whole weeks in my entire life. That lack of experience has translated into my RP so pretty much none of my characters are involved in romance.

[Warren Castille]

Romance good. I'm partial to the slow-burn type of storytelling myself: While there's something to be said about sudden passionate embraces, it's more satisfying to me to make sure things work, and to go through all the growing pains that help make up the bonds that tie characters together. I've heard of too many people suddenly slamming together to get Bonded in game, and then splitting up weeks (or days) later. Then again, it just makes me appreciate what I've got that much more.

[Ignacius]

It depends.  Romance has to be organic in some way.  If you're looking for it, it becomes detrimental to the character.  IRL, I'm married, so I've been VERY reluctant to get back into RP romance.  Too many females playing female characters have experienced a bit too much bleed, and taken it personally when I haven't reciprocated the IRL feelings.

 

However, there's an organic way to do this; make a character that isn't very lovable.  The past two games I've RPed in, I've played Houngan Seeger and now Orleans Ignacius.  Seeger was something of a weird, sociopathic voodoo-heavy witch doctor.  Horrible mercenary character.  Orleans is somewhat similar.  Paranoid, sociopathic, a criminal and a mastermind.  In RP, you can essentially make someone difficult to romantically connect to.

 

Taking Orleans specifically, he literally does not trust anyone that isn't a tribesman, and even his tribesmen look up to him.  Most women who would be interested in him want nothing to do with a man who looks around every time he leaves a building.  Those that would be interested in him despite that are looking up at someone in a position of authority and leadership who sees his people as employees and, at best, charges.  Like an alpha wolf, he doesn't see equals around him.

 

Most people avoid him, though, and he hasn't really been flirted with yet.  He has too much authority in the way he speaks for people to really relate to him in a personal way.  People looking for an interpersonal connection aren't getting it unless they're tribesmen, and so far the tribesmen aren't really romantically involved.

 

And a bit of that is intentional.  Being in a romantic IC relationship always carries that risk of OOC bleed, and there comes a point where you just don't want to deal with it.

[Artigan]

Romance is nice when their is drama between the couple, as a "perfect" relationship is rather dull for story, character development, and plot hooks.

 

Then again some players enjoy the niceties, but I like my drama hot, spicy, and sultry; with just a dash of forever-ever baby.

 

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[ZoktaiKhor]

"I dont need to say anyhting this gu is mine."

"But hes not evne agreeing with you." 

"He doesnt need to he knows better."

Guy sighs and nods.

"So your dating?"

"no he's just mine."

 

I forgot where i read this but this short woman was talking about her tall significant other.and i found it adorable how she was just claiming him. No explantion no title just 'Mine'

[Eses Fafa]

Hmm, I'm pretty good with most relationship RP as long as they're compatible on an OOC level rather than IC. Like both have to agree that it's not perfect and there may be conflicts.

Also if you RP a lot of factors reasonably, and if it's genuinely fun, then by all means. Like as a lecherous character, I wind up black-screening whenever this when gets her freak on, but the rest like getting all huggy and stuff, pestering the IC waifu, diverting from the love to get serious, 's'all good if it's there and it works!

I remember someone who treated their IC relationship OOCly and had a fit when their characters had an argument. I still question that person's grip on reality.

[Caspar]

There's a bit I could write on this, but it's rather hard on my phone. But in general it's not something I actively seek out, yet I always end up getting dragged into it, and my story usually is richer as a result. I think I enjoy a classic, slow, troubled progression and the tragic end a bit too much for some peoples' tastes, but I also feel writing romance is not one of my specialties. I worry that I'm being too slow, not obvious enough, or not sentimental enough. It's worked out fine in the past, but I get the nagging suspicion Every once in a while that I could have done a scene more subtle or stay in character more.

 

I do not ship, but I find shippers entertaining, so I like to give them fuel and keep them in suspense. If there had to be a kind of pairing I enjoy, it is usually people who are opposites, or are destined to oppose one another due to their beliefs. A normal, healthy relationship in rp isn't usually enough to retain my interest, and I also cannot abide the characters who are defined by their home life and have no goals outside of their romance.

 

I'm wary of ooc blend in romance rp because I've experienced that a few times.

[Oli!]

However, there's an organic way to do this; make a character that isn't very lovable.

 

 

I like to do this thing. Making romantically-untouchable characters seems to do the trick.

 

Adalhaid is trying to be chaste for the sake of focusing on monkhood, so anyone that she isn't head over heels for (which is everyone) gets an automatic No. They'd also have to be very punchy for her to even think about it in the first place.

 

My Roegadyn is an angry, horrible, insufferable person that no one without a boatload of their own problems would want to love anyway.

 

Oliwat is a huffy, condescending, intolerant old-wizard asshole on a bad day. Interestingly, he's being taken on by an even bigger asshole.

[Dravus]

I'm a big fan of exploring the romantic and passionate side of my characters. I favour the 'slow and steady' approach since it feels a lot more realistic to me and filters out those who are only in it for the sake of getting ERP as quickly as possible. I care about my character and don't feel like throwing character development out the window just for someone else to get off at his expense.

 

With that said...trust is a major part of it for me as well. I won't ever pair my character with someone else's unless I feel like I know the other role-player well enough to trust and understand them. This is due to a combination of bad experiences in the past and the fact that some role-players are, unfortunately, absolutely bonkers...and not in a good way.

 

Whilst I'm big on pure romance and passion in the real world when it comes to my characters I prefer to see a decent amount of conflict and drama. It just feels more realistic, raw and gritty - allowing for more themes to be explored instead of having everything work out like a fairy tale romance.