Roleplayer Uncertainty/Insecurity Theater

[freyaliesel]

I worry that I've painted my character into a corner, and there's no way out of it.

 

I've made a character that doesn't go out, doesn't approach people, doesn't want to go adventuring, and is underpowered, not particularly knowledgeable about any subject in particular, and has an atrocious stutter and a tendency to cry at everything (and tends to end up crying in nearly every scene she's in)

 

I've tried coming up with a plot to try to get her out of it, but what was intended to be a plot for the entire FC to partake in has resulted in maybe 2-3 people being aware anything's going on at all, and all the hints and mannerism changes and stuff that I was hoping people would pick up on have gone unnoticed or unremarked upon. 

 

I don't RP with her outside the FC and though I want to change that, I don't really know how to go about it, and I just end up feeling so discouraged that I've basically stopped logging in on her unless she's specifically requested.

[Alerie]

I worry about making backstories that are good enough. Like, really really worry about it. >.<

 

I work on them so hard, but end up scraping them over and over because I think they are too lame, or boring, or cliche. The past few times I've managed to finally get into the game to RP with people after making a complete character, I get terrified of other's reactions and never end up talking to anyone. I'm kinda pathetically insecure, heh. :roll:

[Jana]

fuq u Warren, I checked NML before this subforum.

 

...I do worry sometimes that my young character is gonna be too skilled/powerful for others to RP with, or that her speech (with some stutters and ellipses) is just annoying instead of conveying actual shyness/anxiety... For someone I intended to be creepy, gloomy, and an overall terrible person, she sure gets hit on a lot.

 

I'm glad I'm not alone on the "worried about being OP" front; Shoshopu and Jana are both SMNs so maybe it's just the community stigma on playing a capital-J Job instead of Pauper #45.

[Val]

Val: I'm afraid he comes off as incredibly annoying or tries too hard to be funny/offensive, or that people won't or don't want to be around him because of that. I also get afraid that people get tired of him referencing his woman all the time. He doesn't do it to try to flaunt it around or because he feels he has to, he's just that devoted and I feel like it comes off wrong a lot of the time.

 

Cyrus: I'm afraid he's incredibly boring and one-dimensional. I've tried to breathe some life into him through various events and tragedies, so I hope that helps a bit, but I just don't know what to do with him. The last relationship he was in, while it was incredibly fun, didn't give the two a lot to do as they were both very goody-goody and didn't have a lot happen to them because of it.

 

Melfice: He was always meant to be my wild card to help make up for weird and crazy ideas that other people have, but that turned into me being afraid to RP him in public because of the various things he helps people with. I don't want it to seem like too much, and I don't want him to come off as a swiss army knife of solutions. He can't help people with physical combat, and he can't help people with most things that aren't related to aether, but when it comes to that he's incredibly knowledgeable. This has meant some lore bending, and I'm not certain people would find it very friendly outside of the circle I RP him in.

 

Vallois: He's a biproduct of Melfice and, in that respect, I think I'm worried people will just think he's weird/strange. He also doesn't have much of a personality (on purpose) and he's very off-putting, which I know will turn some people off immediately.

 

Vincent/Turks: Already helping out with an FC, I don't really have the time to run the organization myself. I was supposed to have two/three other people helping me out with it, but they all quit the game or we parted ways before Heavensward released and we had a good chance to bring it out into the opening--which left me solely to focus on it. Between other RP, RL, and my admittedly, rapidly dwindling interest in the game, I fear I've let the people down that had an interest in it as I can't and couldn't be there 100% of the time or try to make it an active organization. I had hoped that, should the community like the idea enough, people pick it up and do some RP with it and it become a group all in its own right. Unfortunately, not many people messaged me about it.

 

Myself: I'm afraid my writing is awful and stale. I find myself using the same words, the same descriptions, the same way of going about things time and time again on the various characters. I want to improve, but I don't really have the time to sit and just enjoy a book or work on it like I used to. Part of it may come with me just finding the game itself uninteresting now, but I'm not certain how to get better from where I currently stand. I hope to work on it, both to improve the experience of my partner and those around me. Also, to not feel like my writing is terrible =)

[Edric W.]

Edric isn't a very happy bunny most of the time, and I often feel myself having to OOC make up for how big a douche he is. As an example, I OOC donated some gil to a waiter at an event, even though Ed would laugh at the idea of giving his money away to someone when he had the option not to. He's very selfish in general too, and even though people could blab their whole life story to them, he'd still tell them barely anything about himself.

 

There's also the fact that I can't attend a lot of events simply because Ed wouldn't spend time that could be used on a job attending some purely-for-fun get together. My usual excuses run dry pretty fast, and I feel like he wouldn't be duped in to an event again. Also, because he normally doesn't talk to people much and is rather rude, I often worry that there's little to no incentive for other players/characters to walk up and chat with him. I've temporarily altered his personality before so he could be more social, but it just felt wrong.

 

Other than that, when I use the same word during an emote (or in general) multiple times in close proximity, it makes me want to headbutt the nearest blunt object. I'm also a devil for looking up words on Google to make sure I've spelled them right, and then having the internal battle of whether to use the American spelling or the non-American one.

[Kurt S.]

Half the time I have absolutely no idea if I'm walking into a minefield, if I end up breaking some unspoken rule that involves roleplaying. And worse still, not knowing that I broke that rule to splinters, threw it out the window and set it on fire as well.

 

It fuels a fuckton of anxiety whenever I try to approach people for rp. More to the point I know how much of a pancake I am and how inconsistent is an understatement about Kurt. I want this, no wait I want that. Took a step back, took a deep breath. Rewrote him to varying degrees. Like write > scrap > write again. I've settled on a nice little idea on how to clean him up.

 

But wait, is he good enough? Can I present him well enough? All the changes under the hood? Hell would things go back to the way they were of 5min rl exchange before I get swept under the rug and out of someone's mind? Do I even present an interesting skillset?

 

I guess that also comes with the 'I don't know what to do with him' package. Sure he's starting to take up Thaumaturgy and work on one of his handicaps. But how many people would be interested in a little adventure with him? How many would even want to go out there and do something?

 

Then there's me. Am I writing well enough? It's not stale is it? This idea? Too much? Too little? Is it over what your character would do? Are you sure you just don't feel forced to tag along? I'm not overbearing? Am I talking too much? I'm probably talking too much.

 

*Random character looks at me* Oh god they're judging me! Oh god they probably know how much a trainwreck Kurt is! Oh god they probably don't want to rp with me. Roleplayer-senpai notice meeeeeeee 3

 

I'm also afraid I'm blind to the people reaching out to me. Earnest attempts to get me involved with something and that I'm probably looking stupidly ungrateful.

 

Do you like McDonald's? I like McDonald's. Can I have you number? Can I? Please? Have? Your number? Is there ice cream in the fridge?

 

tl;dr Overthinking.

[Aysun]

This thread has been a good read. It's nice to not feel 'alone' in some things..

 

Though, I'm not terribly worried about anything regarding my character anymore. I've grown more than comfortable with her over the time playing her, and am well aware that there are plenty of parts of her that people won't like. Whether it be that she's snowflakey (Echo, Carteneau time warpy person - hi my name is 1.0 x_x) or just too bitchy to get close to. I have a small circle who enjoy her and can use her for their plots, and I enjoy her, so here we are. 

 

I suppose one thing I do worry about is that people will think that I put too much of myself into her. She does have some of my personality traits, albeit exaggerated, which is probably why she is so easy for me to play. Her overall personality is her own still, and has been shaped by her experiences (both in her history and through RP). Sometimes people don't like those traits, but I am able to separate the two easily enough. If someone criticizes one of those traits in her, I'm not exactly going to mind - they're criticizing her character, not mine. And while she's my mindbaby and I love her, I don't expect everyone else to!

 

Most of my uncertainty/insecurity is all OOC and with RP in general.

 

I worry that I come off as unapproachable, uninterested, or stuck up. Anyone who knows me knows I struggle with asking for RP, or being asked for it, even though I pretty much always want to RP. The actual asking will kill my RP mood. The idea of setting up a plot or discussing a meeting OOCly or starting a scene on Skype to RP sends me into a fit of anxiety and I shut down and can't do it. Thus, I rarely, if ever ask someone for RP, no matter how interested I am in their character, or how good a friend they may be OOC. When I ask someone, I feel like I'm putting myself on the spot, almost like stage fright. I am afraid that there are all these expectations, that I am supposed to bring something specific to RP about... when I usually don't have anything specific in mind, I just want to RP and see what happens. My preferred methods of starting up RP are simply different than most people. I like linkshell RP, as it allows me to just slip IC whatever I am doing, and often leads to meeting up with people at a location naturally. Or, if someone wants to ask me OOC, just a simple "are you available for RP?" and a quick decision of where to meet is best.

 

I worry that my reputation is poor and still follows me. I've been told I'm a bear to moderate when it comes to forum/linkshell/etc. I tend to lack a filter at times when it comes to my opinions, and can come off as hostile. I'm also not afraid to call someone out. During the downtime between 1.0 and 2.0, we were not all on our best behavior, me included. I was involved in more than one heated discussion both here and in our old Skype group. I still have some topics that get me fired up around RP and lore, but I deliberately avoid such conversations here and elsewhere. I'm focused more on just enjoying my time than worrying about what other people may be doing these days. I'm learning to accept more things outside my comfort zone. It's been a good experience.

 

I worry about my writing (who doesn't?). 5~ years of XIV RP and my writing style has definitely changed when it comes to RP. Though I have my roots in paragraph-roleplay, I am not all that comfortable with it anymore. I am descriptive when I want to convey emotion or mood, but I do not get very creative with my words. My posts are short and often speech-only, especially for conversation-RP. I would rather the conversation progress and be able to talk about more things IC with shorter posts than have lengthy, descriptive posts and have a 30 minute conversation last five hours. That's the preference I've developed, though. RP has become more about playing the character than the writing for me. Seeing her and those around her develop, building relationships, and so on. Something I'm most self-conscious about is my use of past- and present- tense in my writing. I tend to switch tenses frequently and seemingly at random, and I have no idea why. I heard this is a pet peeve and ever since then I've become aware that I do it and self-conscious about it.

 

 

..That got long-winded. I have enough anxiety and insecurity to write ten more of those paragraphs probably, but that gets away from RP and just social anxiety in general, so I will spare you all.

[Michaux]

I get worried about how my IC decisions OOCly affect other people...

Like sometimes Ashe does weird things or gets into weird situation and I'm always scared to OOCly piss someone else off because of it.

 

I'm also scared to plot things with new people 'cause I'm worried if the idea is stupid...also scared to plot things with people I know...I'm afraid that I'm too....overbearing about ideas even when I try to step back from IC situations I get worried then that people think I am ignoring their characters.

 

Another insecurity would be that my insecurities to people I don't usually RP with come off as stand-offish in OOC or people think I am intentionally slighting them when it's really just me being unsure how to proceed or trying to be general in communication when my character is surrounded by 10 other people >.<

I was a little intimidated by you at first, but I wouldn't call you stand-offish.  And I think Asheloux is a delight. Characters who act unexpectedly keep RP fresh and entertaining.

 

It's so unfair when people judge you (general you) by your character. I sometimes wonder how other RPers see me when they only know me as Solenne. She's reckless, snobbish, privileged, slightly diabolical, and very used to being the queen bee, while I'm this little mouse of a person who spends most of her free time hiding at home because people are scary. That's not to say Solenne doesn't have a lot of good qualities, but they aren't always what people see first. I just hope that doesn't end up reflecting too poorly on me. 

 

On a completely unrelated note, I'm now slightly paranoid because one of my characters recently got OOCly rejected by someone whose character was romantically interested in her. His reason? He found out that I don't ERP. Now, I don't have anything against ERP - I want to make that perfectly clear. I just avoid it for personal reasons. But now I'm wondering, do I not write interesting characters? Are they not complex enough, not dynamic enough, to be worth pursuing for their own sake? Ugh... this is why romantic RP is such a minefield, and why I usually don't actively pursue it.

[ɴᴘᴄ]

I take most of my interactions while afield. They generally end up being the best part of my gaming session, memorable, though they always seem to be brief and rather open-ended.

 

I suppose my insecurity is that I'm the only one who remembers them.

[Michaux]

I guess that also comes with the 'I don't know what to do with him' package. Sure he's starting to take up Thaumaturgy and work on one of his handicaps. But how many people would be interested in a little adventure with him? How many would even want to go out there and do something?

 

OMG, you dear thing. RP with me! I want to go on adventures with Kurt. Will he wear pink?

[Lydia Lightfoot]

On a completely unrelated note, I'm now slightly paranoid because one of my characters recently got OOCly rejected by someone whose character was romantically interested in her. His reason? He found out that I don't ERP. Now, I don't have anything against ERP - I want to make that perfectly clear. I just avoid it for personal reasons. But now I'm wondering, do I not write interesting characters? Are they not complex enough, not dynamic enough, to be worth pursuing for their own sake? Ugh... this is why romantic RP is such a minefield, and why I usually don't actively pursue it.

 

Unfortunately, even in real world relationships the "end game" goal of many people is "aw yis i'ma put stuff in you". x.x To people like that, your sense of humor, your hobbies and interests, your dreams and your fears, these things don't really matter because they're looking for bondage, not bonding. 

 

Totally about them, and not about you.

[Tiergan]

I feel insanely rusty at writing and cringe every time I catch myself writing the same old descriptions over and over and over again in different RP. I feel like I need to read way more books to juice things up again, but I barely have the time these days.

 

My other huge insecurity is accidentally sending Tiergan or Lurial straight down the slippery slope of Badass Decay.

 

Most of my characters - Leilani, Jirandai, Bartu, Furious Storm - are intentionally underpowered. I like playing 'supporting' characters that make other more powerful characters shine. I also really, really, REALLY enjoy letting villains win out over my characters and I love RPing out the struggle - especially when the odds are not really stacked in their favor. I find the loss, emotional turmoil, and dealing with the fallout of my characters falling into some villain-character's trap way more interesting than them magically coming out on top all the time (plus it gives villain-players a chance to shine!).

 

Unfortunately with characters like Tiergan and Lurial, who are supposed to be more competent as fighters (seasoned gladiator and former-assassin) due to their backstory - it's really tough for me to figure out a nice balance losing enough for me to have fun and 'winning' just enough that Tiergan/Lurial don't look like they're dolts just blundering right into villainous traps.

 

In WoW I once let it happen so often, so consistently on one character that it was hard for anyone, including myself, to take him seriously anymore. I had to shelf that character, because it was hard to build him back up to something that wasn't a joke and I really don't want that to happen to either of the Vashir siblings.

[azahana]

Damn, reading some of the stuff in here makes me feel like my issues are trivial as hell.

 

1: I'm a lalafell with a miqo'te name. Explained in backstory but weirds people out when interacting with her.

 

2: Combat RP makes me confused as hell sometimes. I prefer dice rolling. Dice rolling hates me. Sometimes lady luck is nice. Sometimes, please, would someone just hit the other person already.

 

3: My schedule is random. Hard to find someone to put up with a random schedule/know when I'm around.

[Noirelle]

Damn, reading some of the stuff in here makes me feel like my issues are trivial as hell.

 

1: I'm a lalafell with a miqo'te name. Explained in backstory but weirds people out when interacting with her.

 

2: Combat RP makes me confused as hell sometimes. I prefer dice rolling. Dice rolling hates me. Sometimes lady luck is nice. Sometimes, please, would someone just hit the other person already.

 

3: My schedule is random. Hard to find someone to put up with a random schedule/know when I'm around.

 

Nyahaha mine's also trivial since I just take it as I come and roll with whatever happens. 

 

Then there's a that almost crippling embarrassment if I ever realized I did something wrong.

[Lucius Ignatius]

I've really never had anything I worry about to be honest. All RP I've had during FF 14 since the start has been very fun. I do somewhat worry what some people think about my character though. Its not enough that I would freak out, but, due to how my character dresses most of the time (he prefers the more scant clothiing overall, however he does change clothing depending on events or where he goes) I do fear that some people think he's just for ERP. That is very far from the truth. I as a Heavy RPer that pretty much goes for continuous, sensible, realistic RP, I do dabble in more mature themes such as violence, and other 'dark' themes where they make sense. 'ERP' can happen, if it makes sense that the characters would. I personally, as the player, do not seek ERP in specific. If it happens naturally, it happens. I treat it as any other RP, and as tastefully as any RP. People IRL have relationships, as well as 'fun' every now and then. I RP my character having its own life in Eorzea, just as if it were living IRL. I prefer RP with others that would fit this kind of style, so far I've had no issues at all, but its just a small worry of mine that people think I will approach only for ERP. I probably worry for nothing.

[Kellach Woods]

- RP job doesn't exist in-game (Mime)

Mime as in the actual job mime or Mime as in actual street performing mime? Cause if first, then that is nifty!

 

Actual "Replace Attack With Mimic" job. But that is still a work in progress.

[Aurou]

My biggest insecurity is that I have a huge fear of public speaking - making a mistake, saying the wrong thing, being judged on the topic at hand, being disregarded, not being given a fair chance.. the list goes on and on - and this fear easily transitions over to my RP. I'll often second guess what I'm typing before hitting enter, rethink and retype, even completely scrap things because I worry "Maybe this isn't right" or "No, this is stupid". It leads to longer posting time, which leads to anxiety on my end that my RP partner(s) think I'm ignoring them or not taking things seriously. It's a horrible cycle. Once I get to know people a bit better it's easier for me, but it still happens.

 

Metagaming. Why, oh, why? Because of my aforementioned fear of the spotlight, I tend to favor more supporting role-type characters. I'll work in little quirks or things into their backstories that most people won't just know after seeing my character or talking to them once or twice. I put a lot of thought into some smaller details that will come out naturally over time with RP. Character fears or very specific history aren't advertised on an IC billboard.

 

People confusing or blurring the lines between OOC and IC. My character is very friendly and bubbly. She'll flirt a little to get conversation going - and that's where it ends. That does NOT mean to start spamming me with OOC tells whenever you see me. On the other end of the spectrum, if my character thinks that your character is an arse that doesn't at all that I think you as the player are. If there's ever any confusion on my OOC feelings, I wish that people would simply ask and not assume.

[Larson]

My worry is that I don't worry enough. I know for a fact I enjoy creating and conceptualizing characters more than actually RPing them.

[As'elena]

I always worry about my grammar and sentence structure. IMO I find myself having a very limited vocabulary, always ending up making the exact same emotes just to not appear like some effortless one-sentence at a time person. (Which sometimes can't be helped as I RP deep in the night and I am tired!)

 

Progression is another thing I worry about a lot. The above statement regarding my playtime having some say in that. Being an EU player often makes it difficult to regularly interact with people I meet if I am expected at school the very next day.

 

Likewise, so far I've met dozens of people on my main character and she has made many, many acquaintances. But no RP I seem to engage in is consistent. People I meet once, I barely ever see again because they are either busy with their own FC, friends or whatever reason, so most of those acquaintances never become actual friends IC, or OOC, which often makes me believe I am doing something wrong, as my character is not interesting enough for people to want to interact with.

 

Lastly I also often worry I'm a bit of a stuck-up elitist who is far too picky. I generally RP with anyone and I don't discriminate towards any specific character concept unless it is just outright ridiculous, but I can be a bit nitpicky when it comes to dedication. And by that I mean, I don't really feel like putting effort into someone who barely puts effort into their own character.

 

For example, there have been some characters who grew to have some sort of interest in my character, which is great! I'm not one to turn away a potential romantic story. But if that person only plays once in a blue moon and doesn't really expose their characters to any development, I kinda just don't want to. Their characters quickly grow stale and boring, because they never do anything with their character's life's and only log in to interact with me. I'd rather safe such a spot for someone who can first love their own character and is also able to play remotely regularly during my hours! It sounds really arrogant, but I just can't help it. 

[Diskwrite]

My biggest insecurity right now has to do with the fact that I just don't have the energy or inclination to RP constantly anymore. As I approach my oncoming quarter life crisis, I really want to focus more on my personal creative projects, such as art or writing. Or I'm just tired a particular day and don't really feel up to it!

 

But there's so many people who've expressed interest in RPing with me- I don't want to leave anyone out! But there's just no way I can devote the time and energy into interacting with everyone as much as they'd like.

 

It's a little overwhelming- this isn't a problem I've had before. But it makes me feel really bad when someone expresses clear interest in meeting Ojene or interacting with me, and I just don't have that same excitement. Not because they did anything wrong or bad, but because I don't know how I'm going to work in interacting with them when there's all the other stuff I want to do, too. :c

 

Sooo I've been trying my best, but... still. Guh.

[Ryanti]

i have a whole bunch of insecurities that I try to hide. I'll attempt to explain some of them.

 

1.) I put a hell of a lot of work into Ryanti's family and history. It's enough to make my wiki a mess. That combined with my tenancy to paragraph RP often makes me feel insecure about people not wanting to put up with all that detail and going off to find a better RP partner. I feel like sometimes I've overwhelmed people. I've had RP's simply discontinue because of it.

 

2.) Because of Ryanti's job being the way it is, because his life is very messy and because of his upbringing, he's what Warren calls a 'smooth operator'. It's an outlet for him. It keeps him sane and keeps him feeling alive. I'm not ashamed to say that I practice ERP when the story is right, and declare me bold for even saying that I actually enjoy it (*gasp*) but sometimes I feel like because my character and young and wants to live a little, that people will automatically think I have ulterior motives every time my character speaks to a woman.

 

3.) I don't wanna go into this much, but also super insecure people will judge me because I don't prefer fade to black and because sometimes my RP leads to ERP. It's happened before, where people just judge, and call me names even. But I'm not gonna change for people.

 

4.) Indirectly related to that, I'm super insecure that Ryanti will never find 'the one'. I know that's a silly worry, but part of what my passion for creating Ryanti's story is also carving out his future. That's a significant part of his future - finding love. But I've had terrible luck and more often than not my escapades end up with Ryanti getting slapped or furniture thrown at him. Don't get me wrong, it's hilarious. But I'm insecure that it's the best I can do with him.

 

5.) I'm insecure about Ryanti being a halfling. It was the only way my story could work and, at the same time, fulfill my OOC urge to play a male Miqo'te. But every time Ryanti admits to his blood in-game, there's a part of me that feels like I'm making a 'lolDrizzt' character and that I'm super edgy edgelord because he's a half breed.

 

6.) This is an insecurity that doesn't matter much anymore, but used to. Back when I first started RP'ing Ryanti, he was younger than he is now. Before he set out upon the world, before all of his previous character development, Ryanti was pretty rascist, and looked down upon the lower class. Now not so much, but there was definitely a time where my OOC self thought I was interacting with great characters, and I knew I had to make Ryanti act prejudiced towards them. And behind the keyboard, I was insecure as hell about having my RP partners hate me because of it. That was a difficult time for me, but Ryanti has since grown past that.

 

 

7.) I make extremely bad typos out of nowhere sometimes because my mind is always on something. I feel like shit every time I make them.

[Erah'sae]

My biggest uncertainty and insecurity would have to be worrying about stepping on people's OOC boundaries.

 

I tend to create character with the idea of creating a person with a fresh persona and have them react to stimulus in game as a real person would.   That means I've a tendancy to react without thought of how it impacts others.

 

I used to simply not care, because IC was IC, and that was that.  However for some reason these days I worry a lot.  It may be because I've had to mediate too many situations where IC and OOC have spilled over through the years.

 

It's odd, because the OOC discussing over things that may cross boundaries to feel out where someone wants to go with a scene feels a bit like attempting to pre-determine / force an outcome.  You know.. metagaming the situation.

 

I'm not talking even things like ERP, dark RP, or injuring someone else's character.  But it's simple things like putting someone on the spot or into a situation that forces them out of their normal RP style and the like.

 

It's kind of odd, because there's very little RP wise that crossed my boundaries that I can't just fade a scene to black.

[Accendie]

I think I can echo what just about everyone else is saying in that I really worry sometimes how Nef comes off. IRL I'm very much a loner, wall flower type who has no idea how to interact with 'normal' folks. Get me around a bunch of fellow geeks and it's not a problem but, sadly, one can't always choose who you have to socialize with. When I decided to start RPing in FFXIV I drew from over 10 years of Roleplaying experience to fashion a character who could basically interact with anyone and rationalize being anywhere at any time. Those super serious, antisocial characters might have interesting backgrounds and be great for plots, but just regular socializing.. yea.. not so much fun. Even if you have a regular crew to run with there are times when your schedules don't line up and if you don't have those folks around, that type of character is just really a struggle to play. (I've done it... had whole circles of an RP community I couldn't interact with because they would literally try to kill my character, for good reason too.) Been there done that and didn't bother getting the t-shirt. Next!

So I made Nef. A Rogue, finder of lost things, and fishercat. ;-) She likes to drink, is boisterous, and just overall a (hopefully) fun person to be around. Someone who will go to just about any event... just to go, especially if there might be (free) booze involved. My hope is that once you sit down with her and she starts talking that folks realize she DOES have depth and isn't just a drunk party girl. But it's always so hard to tell.

 

One of the things that I like doing is having a good OOC social channel to talk to folks. Getting to know the -player- behind the character helps me, at least, separate what the character does and who the player is. Sometimes it's so much fun to sit back and kibitz what our own characters are doing. I've had whole scenes where me and the other players involved were either laughing our butts off at our character's stupidity or bashing our heads against the wall at their idiocy.  It seems to help especially if it's a tense/aggressive situation. Maybe some folks don't like that break in immersion, but after years of those insecurities cropping up I found that the benefits far outweigh any break in immersion and make the whole RP experience better overall for it. Each to their own though.

 

There's probably books I could write about this but dinner is waiting.

[Kurt S.]

One more thing to add.

 

Maybe it's just me but you see those people just sitting around, standing around. And you want to walk up to them but then you can't because their squad arrived. And then it makes you wonder if they actually ever had the time of the day for your random walk up if you moved earlier and before their squad arrived.

 

Just me?

 

Ocake :3

[Erah'sae]

One more thing to add.

 

Maybe it's just me but you see those people just sitting around, standing around. And you want to walk up to them but then you can't because their squad arrived. And then it makes you wonder if they actually ever had the time of the day for your random walk up if you moved earlier and before their squad arrived.

 

Just me?

 

Ocake :3

 

I get like that too at times.  That "damn, I'll be interrupting" feeling.  Some days, I just say screw it and stick my nose right in the middle of their crew.